How to guide high school students in premature love?

In today's society, premature love among students is a very serious problem. Some children start to fall in love early in junior high school, and most of the premature love occurs in high school. Whether it is parents or teachers, once they find out that their children are in love early, they will be very anxious. However, when it comes to dealing with the issue of children's premature love, many parents and teachers' approaches are inappropriate. At this time, do not blindly interfere, but guide them correctly. The correct guidance methods are as follows.

How to guide high school students in premature love?

1. Keep calm and handle it calmly

Parents must first have a correct understanding and realize that "premature love" is a normal behavior of boys and girls in adolescence. Adolescents in this period will have a special curiosity and closeness to the opposite sex, but some are more obvious and some are more hidden. In other words, it is inevitable for high school students to fall in love early. Don't think that high school students who fall in love early are bad learners or have become degenerate. If parents discover that their high school students are in "premature love", they will immediately regard it as a scourge and a heinous crime, and will fly into a rage and make a big fuss, or they will rush to tell the teacher and the other parent, angrily scolding and beating the high school student, causing a sensation in the whole city. This will definitely not have an ideal outcome. Premature love is a kind of emotional privacy, and parents must keep it confidential for them. If possible, they should not let others know about it, even those who are very close to them. Things like premature love among high school students are like a spring: the heavier it is compressed, the higher it bounces. Some high school students who run away from home or elope together, don’t they do so because of strong pressure from their families or schools? That’s why they decide to “run away”! As parents and teachers, we must deal with this matter calmly and rationally and must not act too hastily.

2. Reasoning for a soft landing

A soft landing means letting high school students realize their mistakes and correct them consciously and voluntarily. When parents discover that their high school students are in a premature relationship, they should find the right opportunity according to the students' personality characteristics, appeal to their emotions, explain the reasons to them, and help them with their heart, so that they can understand the love and sincerity of their parents, and correct their mistakes from the bottom of their hearts. This is the case with the father in the example above. Although he didn't say much to the "handsome boy", every word he said made sense and was spoken from the other party's perspective, making him feel deeply that it was for his own good. Therefore, he immediately accepted it "with a sincere attitude". What he said to his daughter was sincere in its seriousness and philosophical in its depth, especially the quote from writer Liu Qing, which hit the nail on the head. Believe that the vast majority of adolescent high school students are reasonable. They can weigh the pros and cons and control themselves firmly. In addition, when reasoning with them, it is best to share some knowledge about puberty so that they can understand their own physical and psychological characteristics from a scientific perspective.

3. Search, Isolation and Surveillance are Strictly Prohibited

Some parents, when they find out that their high school students are in a premature relationship, appear to be quite calm on the surface, but in fact they are extremely nervous and take precautions everywhere, and even use improper means to control the personal freedom of their high school students: one is to search. Some parents take advantage of their students' inattention to search their school bags, clothes, drawers, etc., and confiscate all relevant photos, letters, greeting cards, etc. Once they find the so-called "evidence", they will criticize them severely. The second is isolation. Some parents find that their high school students show signs of premature love, so they do not allow them to go out alone or answer calls from the opposite sex. The third is surveillance. Some parents are always worried and resort to tracking their high school students wherever they go. These three methods are not fair and are not advisable. They may make things awkward and even directly damage the relationship between parents and high school students.