What is the reason why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been bad

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem to solve. Many times it is because in life, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different ideas and concepts, and their status at home has changed. However, in order to solve it, they should give each other more tolerance.

1. The mother-in-law is increasingly exceeding her status as a mother-in-law. She thinks her daughter-in-law's home is her own home and she wants to be the head of the daughter-in-law's home, interfering in everything; she interferes in the affairs of the daughter-in-law's family and wants to control the property of the daughter-in-law's family. This problem has certain historical roots. Chinese people believe in raising sons to provide for one's old age. Many elderly people believe that their son's home is their own home. Since it is their own home, of course they have the final say. This results in conflicts.

2. Another reason: The daughter-in-law is increasingly transcending the status of a daughter-in-law and always wants to control the big and small matters of her mother-in-law’s family. Or they feel that the mother-in-law is not treating the children equally and is partial to other children, investing more in other children, and conflicts arise. My understanding of this issue is that you have to admit that after you and your husband have formed a family, you have become a family of your own and are related to your mother-in-law's family, but not one. As for how your parents-in-law deal with her family's property and how she wants to deal with it, that is their own business. You may feel uncomfortable, but it is a bit too much to feel that you should bear less responsibility for this. This is just like not wanting your mother-in-law to interfere in your family affairs. If your family is well-off and your mother-in-law thinks you should take care of other children and wants to interfere in the distribution of your family's property, what would you think? Would you still think that your mother-in-law is justified in doing so?

3. To put it bluntly, as long as the mother-in-law takes care of her own affairs and the daughter-in-law takes care of her own home, and everyone does not be too greedy for things that do not belong to their own home, there will basically be peace and harmony.