Teenagers don’t like to talk?

Generally speaking, adolescent children do not like to talk or make friends. This situation is mostly a psychological problem. Generally speaking, there are many reasons for this phenomenon, such as daily living environment or one's own personality. If you want to improve it, you must maintain a good attitude and learn to self-regulate. If the symptoms are more serious, it is best to consult a psychologist as soon as possible.

Teenagers don't like to talk

First of all, when parents have adolescent children, what they don’t say is more important than what they do say. You should control your mouth and don't talk too much. Listen more to your child's ideas and use "um, ah, oh?" instead of preaching responses. Your child will then talk more.

Secondly, give up the idea that “this child just wants to go against me”. Adolescents are not targeting you. This is a normal stage of their growth. If you learn to listen well, this stage will pass quickly.

Sometimes, children will tell you about things you don’t understand, such as a certain star, video games, or popular things. You may not like them or even look down on them, but don’t rush to deny them. Each generation has its own growth background and marks of the times. We may not be able to fully understand them, but what we can do is accept and understand them. At the same time, if you are even a little bit interested in what their generation likes, they might think: Well, this mom is not too unfashionable.

Adolescent children will only be willing to confide in you and listen to you when they feel accepted by you. To change the situation where children don’t like to communicate with you, you must start by changing yourself!

If adolescent children are not talkative, what attitude and approach should parents adopt?

1. Let the child have something to talk about and create a good family atmosphere for him. Parents should not force their children to have the same personality as others, and they should not scold their children for having a bad personality. When some parents get anxious, they blame their children: "Why are you so lifeless all day long?" "You stay in your room all day long, as listless as an old man."

These words will only increase the psychological burden of the child. Be more tolerant of the child. Don't blame the child when he says something wrong or does something wrong. Don't say anything that hurts the child's self-esteem. Let the child learn to communicate with his family heart to heart in a relaxed and happy atmosphere, and give him a chance to explain. In this way, parents can better understand their children and help them get out of their own hearts.

2. Parents should create more opportunities for children to interact and encourage them to participate in group activities. Group activities are a bond for mutual communication among children. In the group, children help each other, learn from each other, and gain a sense of security from their peers.

If peers can confide in each other, even the most taciturn child will have nothing to say. Parents should be able to see and encourage their children's every bit of progress and may use spiritual or material rewards to give them their thoughts. In addition to encouraging children to express themselves freely, it is also necessary to tell them that answering other people's questions is a basic courtesy. Let them try to communicate with others and slowly form a habit.

As long as we parents are patient and careful, don't care too much about whether the children make mistakes, give them more opportunities to practice communication, take them out more often, such as to parties or outings, etc., you will slowly find bigger changes in your children.

3. Treat children as adults. Although children entering puberty have grown up, they are still children in the eyes of their parents, so it is inevitable that their parents will nag them a few times. However, parents who understand their children's personalities must pay attention that excessive nagging at this time may not help their children.

Parents may as well calm down, adjust their mentality first, treat the child as an adult, give him the right to remain silent, instead of being impatient for success and blaming him for everything, appreciate the child more, give more encouragement and praise, think about problems from the child's perspective, and communicate with him on an equal footing.

In this way, the child will trust you and be willing to tell his parents about his inner confusion and worries. Parents can be his mentor, give him more advice and help the child solve problems in life.

Only then can children regard their parents as friends, and parents' thoughts and behaviors can infect or influence their children, allowing children to become as excellent as their parents imperceptibly.