What should I do if I feel so sad after breaking up

If the relationship is not going well, couples will break up. Breaking up is very painful for most people, especially many people will cry, feel bad, etc. because of the breakup. If one is immersed in the sadness of a breakup for a long time and cannot get out of it, it will have a great impact on one's mental state and normal life. So, what should you do if you feel sad after a breakup?

1. Do some exercise

Go for a walk, or do some physical exercise. Write down 10 things you can do and start working through the list to overcome your body's inertia.

2. Find something happy to do

Read a book, listen to music, or go out and experience something new. Watch a movie or play with your new iPod. Make a list of things you want to do, and when you are bored, take it out and see which things are suitable for you to do.

3. Express your emotions appropriately

Maintaining a stable emotion does not mean that you become emotionally indifferent or have no emotional response to anything, but rather that you should avoid uncontrolled outbursts. It is human nature to experience joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness. Of course you will cry when you encounter sad things, and you will be happy when you encounter happy things, but you should express it appropriately and not excessively or for too long. For example, the death of a loved one is a sad thing, and trying not to cry is actually harmful to your health. Tears can remove harmful substances from the body and also relieve sadness and tension. But if the crying continues uncontrollably, it is abnormal. When you encounter troubles, find a close friend to talk to and say what you want to say, which will help you calm down. When you are filled with resentment and want to vent it on others, you can find some substitutes to vent it, such as throwing a doll that cannot be broken, hitting a thick tree, etc. We must learn to vent our emotions, that is, the object, place, occasion and method of venting should be appropriate to avoid hurting others.

4. Distract Your Attention

When emotions react, there is a strong excitement point in the mind. At this time, if one or several new excitement points are established, the original dominant center can be offset or diluted. Middle school students are in a period of intense emotional changes and can easily become angry over trivial matters. Suppressing anger is harmful to your body, and allowing it to be vented will harm others and yourself. It is better to avoid it temporarily, analyze it calmly, and find a more appropriate solution. For example, when you do not perform well in an exam, you do not have to sigh and blame yourself all day long. You can go play ball, take a walk, or do other relaxing activities, such as listening to your favorite music, etc., to relax yourself. Then, objectively analyze the reasons for the failure and strive to get better results next time.