How to improve your emotional intelligence?

In the past, people paid more attention to IQ, and those with high IQ were particularly popular. In addition, in today's society, parents also pay special attention to EQ when raising their children. In fact, in many occasions, especially when getting along with others in society, a person's EQ is often more important than IQ. Therefore, those with low EQ can take the following methods to help improve their EQ.

How to improve your emotional intelligence?

1. Don’t be an emotional person. People must control their emotions and not let emotional garbage pollute others. When you are happy, don’t be too proud; when you are angry, don’t become hysterical; when you are sad, don’t be overwhelmed; when you are upset, don’t sigh.

Second, keep your sharp tongue and keep a kind heart. A sharp tongue is the easiest to hurt people. You may forget about it as soon as you drop it, but the harm to others has already been caused. You should keep your sharp tongue and have a kind heart.

Third, build a fence around your heart. Don't open your heart to others casually. If a person's heart can be seen clearly by others at a glance, he or she will often become very passive. Therefore, build a fence around your heart, and better yet, put a lock on it. Don’t let it be like a vegetable market where anyone can come and go freely.

4. Discuss, but don’t argue. At work, you can discuss things openly and calmly, and try not to argue with others. Arguments hurt harmony, and harmony hurts your emotional intelligence.

5. Learn to praise others. Many people always mistakenly believe that praise is flattery, which is too superficial. In fact, praise is a language communication skill based on equality.

6. Say “listen” more often and don’t say “whatever”. When communicating with others, you should respect their opinions more, don’t be stubborn, and don’t be absent-minded. Saying “listen” more often than “casual” will make people feel comfortable.

7. Be most respectful to others. People with high emotional intelligence are polite to everyone, regardless of their social status. Even doormen, chefs, drivers, and cleaners are treated with courtesy and respect.

8. Say “let” more often. Be more enthusiastic. When others need help, don’t just sit there and watch the view. Instead, take the initiative to lend a hand and say “come on” more often.

9. See through but don’t speak out. The reason why many people find themselves in a thankless situation is that they misjudge the friendship between themselves and others, saying things that they should not say and explaining things that they should not explain. Seeing through things without saying them out loud is the true wisdom in dealing with things.

10. There is a skill in saying no. When you reject someone, you should be strategic and not be blunt, otherwise you will not only lose their friendship but also make an enemy. When you refuse, try to be vague and tactful so that you get your meaning across.