Serious consequences of sexual openness

In the 21st century, sexual life is highly open. In the past, men and women generally had sex after marriage, but now many unmarried men and women, and even married men and women, have promiscuous sex, for example, having not only one sexual partner but also multiple sexual partners at the same time. In short, sex is too open. Some women don’t even know who the biological father of their child is after they become pregnant. So what are the dangers of sexual openness?

Sexual openness can easily affect the natural environment of the uterus for unmarried women who lack contraceptive skills and use inferior contraceptive methods. If a pregnancy is discovered, people may look down upon and ridicule you. Induced abortion will have adverse effects on the body and will create a negative physiological and psychological record for fertility. If your husband has more sex in the future, the sperm will have a different effect on the uterus, which will affect your body shape. Too much sexual involvement in a boy's life will affect his physical growth. Sexual openness affects the relationship between couples, it is easy for casual couples to form, and people are prone to looking for good matches. It is not conducive to the cultivation of couple feelings, the raising of offspring, sexual hygiene, the improvement of human quality, the existence of the family, the maintenance of social relations, and reduces the level of social order.

There are benefits, but the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. With sexual openness, people can enjoy physical pleasure more. But if it is liberalized, it will have a great impact on the stability of marriage, the divorce rate will increase, and sexual openness will increase the number of single-parent families, affect family education, lead to a decline in the quality of the population, and increase the probability of problem youth. If sex is open, people will no longer regard their sexual partners as the only candidates for marriage. There will be more cases of sex being used as a bargaining chip for benefits. The problem of mistresses will become more and more frequent, and human ethics will be subverted and gradually go to extinction.

Sexual openness has no benefits but only disadvantages. If we have to point out the benefits, it would be like saying that the benefits of taking drugs are enjoyment and understanding, which is sad. It would be terrible if people had no opinions of their own.

Every one of us wants to maintain good health and live a long life, but what is the basis of maintaining good health? If you destroy it before you even maintain it, how can you maintain good health? Traditional Chinese medicine says that there are two roots: one is the innate root, and the other is the acquired root. The innate foundation is the essence of life given to us by our parents, which is the kidney essence, which is equivalent to a seed. All life potential is in this kidney essence. These innate kidney essences cannot be supplemented or replaced acquired. So health preservation is about saving. If you save, you will live longer. If you waste, you will die early. The foundation of acquired constitution is spleen and stomach. Think about it, would you eat it? The acquired diet of five grains nourishes spleen and stomach, which is equivalent to rain and sunshine for trees, so that the body can thrive.

We start from a fertilized egg, from a little sperm and blood from our parents, called a little yang energy, and we absorb the yin blood in the mother's belly, little by little every day. The mother's blood is transformed from the essence of the kidneys and the essence of water and grain after birth. The mother supplies blood to the fetus, and we develop internal organs, limbs, and brain marrow until we are born as babies weighing six or seven pounds. After we are born, we drink our mother's milk, also known as white blood, which is also made of blood. Therefore, women do not have menstruation when they are breastfeeding because the blood is raised into the breasts. At this time, the kidney essence will promote the growth and development of our body. Our height, bones, brain marrow, and internal organs will grow. The excess essence of the internal organs is transported to the kidneys for storage. The kidneys are like a treasury, and when you need energy for emergencies in the future, you can extract essence from them.

The function of kidney essence is also used for reproduction. The ancients said that men will have nocturnal emissions at the age of 28 (16) and women will have menstruation at the age of 27 (14). Although they have the ability to reproduce at this time, our bones and internal organs are developing vigorously and need constant nourishment from kidney essence. If one indulges in lust at this time and damages his essence, it is equivalent to leaking kidney essence from his brain, bones, and internal organs to satisfy his desires. Then, will his internal organs grow well? On the surface, his five internal organs appear to be in good shape, but their functions decline, and his memory declines rapidly, he becomes listless, his bones do not grow, and he loses the ability to learn.

Therefore, the ancients said that men must marry at the age of 30, and women should marry after the age of 20. Otherwise, if his semen is extracted too early and his sperm is damaged by excessive sexual activity, how can he grow normally? If a woman's vagina is broken too early, it will also damage her yin blood. The white turbid secretions of women and the white sperm excreted by men are all transformed from kidney essence.

Kidney essence is the most precious thing in our body. You want to be successful in your career, you want to conquer a kingdom, what do you rely on? You rely on your kidney essence. Without kidney essence, you can't do anything. A Chinese doctor can tell at a glance that a person’s complexion is damaged by the dark circles under the eyes and a lack of energy. The ancients said that "essence, energy and spirit are the three treasures of man." If you lose your essence, your energy and spirit will have no carrier, and they will become scattered, and you will have no fighting spirit.

Then there is another very important thing, which is that the mind is not pure and has evil thoughts. As long as you have evil thoughts, although the semen does not flow out, it is no longer in the original position, which is equivalent to loss of semen. The same is true for women. At school, I often meet college students who come to me for treatment. I say, "You have bad habits, don't you?" They say yes, and they really know they are wrong. Their hair is falling out in clumps, and they have no energy to study. I said, "Now you must mend your ways, or there is still hope. If you don't, I will not give you any Chinese medicine treatment." So we must know that the purity of a person's mind is very important to the protection of the human kidney essence.

Normal childbearing for a married woman is a natural process. But what about abortion? It means forcefully breaking the shell of the melon, breaking the stem, and pulling it off. Everyone in the countryside knows that when children want to eat melons, they secretly pull them off when they are still green and unripe. After they are pulled off, the vines will dry up. Can they grow again? The meridians of the human body are broken from then on. Then the dead fetus must be taken out and a piece of vital essence is dug out. This essence is also the essence of a woman's kidney essence! Therefore, the first thing that is damaged by abortion is the kidney essence. This kidney essence includes the innate foundation - Yuan Yin and Yuan Yang, which can cause kidney deficiency: low back pain, bone and joint pain, fear of cold, fear of heat, spontaneous sweating, night sweats, frequent urination, etc. Just like a national treasury being emptied rapidly, a woman's defense capabilities throughout her life are completely reduced, and she is filled with hidden dangers. When you get older, many diseases come one after another, which is unimaginable. After the kidneys are damaged, the liver and spleen will be damaged. When the liver, spleen and kidneys are all damaged, the liver has less blood and it dries up, you will lose hair, have very little menstrual flow, have blurred vision, become irritable and angry, and have a nameless temper. Damage to the spleen and stomach manifests as a very yellow complexion. The more abortions a woman has, the more her face becomes yellower. A woman's beauty depends on the nourishment of Qi and blood. If these are damaged, how can she be beautiful? The complexion will be dull and without luster and color, and she will feel weak and afraid of the wind. Many people even lose their ability to work because of this.

In addition, abortion can cause serious damage to the meridians. Everyone knows that in the lower abdomen, three inches below the navel, it is called the lower Dantian in Qigong. This is where the male's sperm chamber and the female's uterus are located. There are three important extraordinary meridians originating from the uterus - the Ren Meridian, the Du Meridian and the Chong Meridian. Anyone who has a little knowledge of Qigong knows that the circulation of the Ren and Du meridians is called the small circulation. This is the place where the yin and yang energies of the whole body converge. It is called the "sea of ​​yang meridians" and the "sea of ​​yin meridians", and both originate from the uterus. There is also a meridian called Chong Mai, which is the sea of ​​blood in the whole body and is very important for women. Because women are in charge of blood, they use the yin blood from the Chong and Ren meridians to nourish the fetus. There is another meridian related to the uterus, which is the belt meridian. It wraps around the waist like a melon vine, supporting the fetus. When the fetus grows up, it looks like a small melon. Why doesn't the small melon fall to the ground? It's because the vine is pulling it! If it is damaged again and again, the belt meridian will break like a melon vine. After three injuries, can you maintain the fetus even if you get pregnant again? Coupled with the damage to qi and blood, the fetus will fall out - miscarriage. Of course, everyone's physique is different, but no one can guarantee that their physique is the best and can withstand such damage. Miscarriage causes the endometrium of the uterus to become bumpy and covered with scars, which is no longer a soft bed and is not suitable for the healthy growth of seeds. In addition, the yin blood is insufficient and the soil has no nutrients. Coupled with severe adnexitis, infertility can occur. Western obstetrics and gynecology also believe that pregnancy is possible after more than three abortions, but there is no way to give birth to a normal baby. According to current domestic surveys, 60% of infertility is secondary infertility caused by artificial abortion and medical abortion.

Traditional medicine believes that abortion

It is a huge drain on the blood.

I remember Taoist Lao Tzu said, "Others spend lavishly, but I spend frugally, so I can live a long life." Abortion leads to a huge depletion of Qi and blood, so the first thing that happens after abortion is a decline in quality of life, decreased resistance, and susceptibility to invasion by evil spirits, which is commonly known as "postpartum disease" in society. This disease is very difficult to treat. Ancient Chinese medical books say "Miscarriage should not be taken lightly, and the care required for a miscarriage should be ten times that of a normal birth." Everyone knows that confinement takes one month, but miscarriage causes greater damage because it is the process of breaking the shell and removing the pedicle, so one should take ten months to rest. However, in our society, young girls who have miscarriages go to work the next day. Many patients are afraid of cold and wind in summer due to damage to their qi and blood. They have to wear sweaters and trousers, use electric blankets, and keep the windows tightly closed. Their bodies are like paper-made people. They sweat from morning to night, have night sweats, and their hands and feet are numb. They feel anxious and short of breath when they walk, and cannot walk or go upstairs at all. They have low blood pressure and dizziness, and finally cannot work. They also have symptoms such as scanty menstruation and hair loss.

Traditional Chinese medicine believes that "when positive energy is within, negative energy cannot enter." After the Qi and blood are damaged, various evil spirits will enter directly. If you don't know how to maintain it and have sex frequently, you will be easily infected with bacteria, viruses, molds, tuberculosis, various gynecological inflammations (acute and chronic vaginitis, pelvic inflammatory disease, salpingitis), sexually transmitted diseases (AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, condyloma acuminatum), intrauterine infection, endometriosis, and you are also susceptible to wind, cold, and moisture, which will lead to postpartum wind, pain in the joints all over the body, and rheumatoid arthritis when you are older. Many patients with postpartum wind lament sadly: "Who knows the pain we have suffered!"

Teenage abortion carries a high risk of death

The first serious complication of abortion is death. More than 70,000 people die from abortion every year worldwide. Serious complications of abortion for teenage girls include death from massive bleeding, which can lead to shock, acute renal failure, and be life-threatening. There are also serious infections such as acute peritonitis, sepsis, and uterine rupture and perforation, which can lead to death. Even if the patient is rescued, heavy bleeding may leave behind Sheehan syndrome, endocrine diseases after pituitary ischemia and necrosis, or hysterectomy.

Miscarriage can also lead to psychological illness, anxiety, postoperative depression, and loss of self-esteem. I once gave a lecture at Hebei University, and some female students came to me. They had a lot of psychological problems, so I gave them some advice. I said, "No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. It's okay as long as they change for the better." There is an award-winning public welfare film in the United States called "The Corroded Reason", which is an educational film focusing on the theme of abortion. A woman couldn't bear to see the bloody corpse of an aborted baby and almost had a mental breakdown. To be honest, when we were interning in the obstetrics and gynecology department, we did see the heads, hands and feet of tiny fetuses in the trash can.

Unmarried abortion has a great impact on family happiness and social stability. First of all, the divorce rate will increase, and premarital sexual behavior will reduce marital satisfaction. As one professor said, "We have complete sexual freedom, but we have lost precious love in sexual chaos and promiscuity." "The result of lust is that it splits you apart and keeps you away from your true heart, thoughts and values, as well as the life you really want."

The return of traditional morality is the foundation of harmony between body and mind

Today's young people are impetuous, confused, empty and lonely. They seek external stimulation due to their inner emptiness. Their concept of pleasure is seriously distorted. Coupled with Western values ​​and materialism, their sense of right and wrong and ethical concepts are completely wrong and reversed, let alone any personality or integrity.

Therefore, we should look for answers from the virtues of traditional culture. First, we should learn the wisdom of the saints to improve ourselves and fill the emptiness in our hearts. The "Great Learning" says: "From the Son of Heaven down to the common people, all must consider the cultivation of the person the root of all things." A foolish person only places his ambitions on the desires of "wealth, sex, fame and food" and only satisfies his desires, which is no different from an animal. The sages taught us to "control the seven emotions and cultivate the ten virtues," namely, "father's kindness, son's filial piety, brother's kindness, younger brother's respect for elder brother, husband's righteousness, wife's obedience (gentleness and cooperation), elder's kindness, younger's obedience, ruler's benevolence, and minister's loyalty. These ten are called human virtues." For women, virtue is especially important. A lady, a virtuous daughter, a virtuous mother, and a virtuous wife are all sources of harmony.

Eastern philosophy believes that there are differences in the talents of men and women, and that men should be masculine, loyal, kind, and gentle. Women should have the beauty of gentleness and tranquility, which is manifested in gentleness and chastity, which means that gentleness is given to you by heaven and earth. If it goes against nature, women's qi and blood will not flow smoothly, and they will develop chloasma on their faces, cholecystitis and uterine fibroids, all of which are caused by the stagnation of liver qi. Hair loss, hyperthyroidism and menstrual disorders are caused by impatience, stubbornness and narrow-mindedness. Bing Xin's inscription for all of us women is, "Be a new era woman who loves herself, respects herself, values ​​herself, is independent, and strives for self-improvement."

The second is to implement filial piety. The "Book of Filial Piety" says: "One's body and hair are given by one's parents. One should not damage them. This is the beginning of filial piety." This is the foundation of virtue. How do you understand it? When you feel pain, the pain is in your body and in your heart as a parent, so the body and hair of children belong to their parents. Mencius said: "What is the most important service? To serve your parents. What is the most important protection? To protect yourself." An open life leads to serious damage to morality and body, which is due to one's irresponsibility to oneself, to one's future family, and to one's own future.

"Corrupt officials who amass wealth always bring disaster to their descendants. Honest officials who are clean can usually benefit their descendants." This is a question of positive virtue and negative virtue. Traditional Chinese medicine talks about yin and yang. Yang refers to what we can see, and yin refers to what we cannot see. Promiscuity between men and women is a matter that damages Yin virtue. I have a Chinese medicine master who can tell how many times a woman has had an abortion just by looking at her face. He can also tell whether a man has had an affair just by looking at his face. Everyone is transparent in front of him. Doing good deeds silently will benefit your descendants; doing harm to others secretly will also harm your descendants. "Good deeds, if not accumulated, will not lead to fame; evil deeds, if not accumulated, will not lead to destruction."

When dealing with those people who do wrong things without knowing the truth, we cannot just feel sad, we must also help them. I would like to call for starting with traditional moral education, especially from improving the traditional cultural foundation of young people. On the other hand, let them receive education on how to avoid damaging their spirit and morality, and fully realize the harm. Such positive and negative education can achieve harmony between body and mind.