How to educate children when they do something wrong

Educating children is a headache for parents. Only by adopting positive and healthy educational methods can we promote the physical and mental development of children. When children do something wrong, parents should avoid beating or scolding them. They should be guided and communicated actively. Only in this way will the child be willing to communicate with you, and finally the child will be able to truly realize that he or she has done something wrong. Let us learn about this aspect below.

First sentence: "What happened?"

This question may seem insignificant, but it is very important. When encountering emergencies, many adults tend to judge too quickly: "You must have hit him first, so he hit you." "You must have done something wrong, so the teacher punished you." If we don't let children explain what happened from their perspective, we may wrongly accuse the children. Moreover, if you give the child a chance to speak, even if it is really his fault, he will be more willing to admit his mistake because he has the opportunity to defend himself.

Second sentence: "How do you feel?"

What happened is an objective fact, and the shock felt by the parties involved is purely subjective, which has no right or wrong meaning. Many times, we just need to express our feelings. Once you say it out, cry a little, and curse a little, you will feel much better. Brain science research shows that when a person is emotionally strong, external stimuli are not easily absorbed by the brain. In other words, when a person is still emotional, he will not listen to what others say. He has to wait until he calms down before he can think calmly. So if we want our children to be able to listen to our opinions, we need to empathize with their feelings first and give them an outlet for their emotions.

The third sentence: "What do you want?"

At this time, no matter what shocking words the child says, don't rush to teach him a lesson, but calmly ask him the fourth question.

The fourth sentence: "So what do you think are some solutions?"

At this stage, you might as well brainstorm with your children and come up with all kinds of ideas, reasonable, unreasonable, absurd, funny, disgusting, childish... The point of brainstorming is to allow any seemingly ridiculous idea. No matter what you hear at this time, don't criticize or judge it for the time being. When he can't think of any more ideas, you can ask him the fifth question.

Fifth sentence: "What are the consequences of these methods?"

Let your children examine each method one by one and think about the consequences. You may be surprised to find that most children understand the consequences of things. If there is a gap in his understanding, you can have a good discussion with him at this time to help him understand the reality. This is a good opportunity for parent-child communication, but avoid preaching and just state the facts.

After reading the above analysis, now you know how to educate children when they do something wrong! It is inevitable for children to make mistakes, but parents must guide their children correctly to correct them. If parents do not educate their children well, the children may make the same mistake next time.