What is the correct way to educate children?

In order to educate their children, parents will put in a lot of effort. Educating children is a complicated task. Although many parents work very hard and do a lot of good things for their children, the results may not satisfy them. I have found that many parents, under the slogan of "for the good of their children", let their children do many things they think are right, but these practices may not be what the children like. If a child is forced to do something he doesn't like, the result will definitely not be good. The main reason why many educational failures are due to not considering things from the child's perspective. In fact, parents should not think that educating children is difficult. Young parents who do not know how to educate their children can learn the following methods.

1. Set an example:

Setting an example is an important way to influence and educate children through other people’s good thoughts and behaviors. The excellent qualities of classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and role models, positive characters in literary and artistic works, and revolutionary leaders are all objects of learning and imitation for children. Regardless of whether parents’ words and deeds are right or wrong, they will have a profound impact on their children. Therefore, parents should always and everywhere examine their words and deeds in their daily lives.

2. Environmental influence:

Parents should consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and influenced by it. The family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their lives well, handle the relationships between members well, adhere to correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a united and harmonious family atmosphere, and establish an orderly life order to cultivate their children's good sentiments.

3. Criticism and Punishment:

Both criticism and punishment are a denial of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is a means of education for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we must first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific circumstances and severity of the bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the actual mistakes. Criticism is to point out the harm and ideological roots, deny their thoughts and behaviors, make them feel ashamed and painful, and thus generate motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, ridiculing, or abusive. Punishment mainly involves deprivation of certain rights, rather than corporal punishment, humiliation of personality, or destruction of the body and mind.

4. Guide and arrange the daily life order:

A good living order is an effective way to cultivate good habits in children. Guide children to arrange their daily life, arrange their living environment, teach them how to arrange and use their time in an orderly manner. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give guidance.

5. Persuasive Education:

Specific methods of persuasive education: First, conversation. Parents should present facts and reason based on their children's actual thoughts to make their children understand certain truths. The conversation should be targeted and flexible, and the attitude should be kind. Don't have a stern face, scold or ridicule in a condescending manner. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children and listen to their opinions patiently. If they have incorrect views, we should also patiently explain the reasons to help children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.

6. Practical training:

The content of actual training is quite broad, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of oneself, housework, independent work, civility, social communication and so on. To carry out practical exercises, children should first be made clear of the purpose and significance (why), specific requirements should be put forward (how to do it), and they should be encouraged to overcome difficulties and persevere. The exercise content should be suitable for the children's age and personality characteristics, and the tasks assigned and the requirements put forward must be appropriate based on their actual abilities. Allow children to make mistakes in practice and don't be too demanding. Parents should not stop their children from exercising midway because they are afraid that they will suffer.

7. Rewards:

Praise and reward are to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, we can strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor and strive for greater progress. Praise and rewards should be based on facts, be timely, have reasons, and should be mainly spiritual rewards with material rewards as a supplement.

8. Guidance for extracurricular reading:

Guide your children to read books, newspapers and magazines so that they can absorb useful spiritual nourishment from them. Parents should understand what their children are reading, discuss it with their children, and guide their children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons, and be spiritually cultivated through reading.

9. Use family television:

With the introduction of television into families, children can gain a lot of knowledge and broaden their horizons from watching television, so we should make full use of it. But be careful: there should be no choice, and the time should not be too long. It is best to talk to your children after watching TV and discuss the content of the TV.

10. Lead your children to go out and get in touch with society:

Take your children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, rural areas, or to visit classmates, relatives and friends to engage in social interaction, broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and understand society.