What is the best way to treat fear of marriage?

Many couples who are preparing to get married are prone to the problem of marriage phobia. This is because they have been influenced by their families before, or because they have received a lot of negative influences from friends, which leads to a fear of marriage. Therefore, they should pay attention to proper communication between couples and seek counseling from a psychologist when necessary.

1. Worry about the outcome of marriage:

There are always many kind and old-fashioned people who keep persuading those who fear marriage: you are not young anymore, it is time to get married. But those who fear marriage have many reasons to hesitate outside the siege. They are afraid of losing their freedom, being trapped by their wife and children, and being afraid that marriage will ruin their existing happiness. Those who fear marriage are worried that they will not be able to avoid the vulgar ending of marriage in the end, and no one can predict whether the long future will be happy or not. Maybe one day, those who fear marriage will grit their teeth and convince themselves that they have overcome their fear of marriage, and step onto the red carpet with trembling and thin ice, but the huge psychological barriers may still make them feel a strong sense of loss.

2. Fear of taking responsibility:

Those who are about to get married understand that their relationship will undergo a qualitative change from now on. Dating is free, and you can meet whenever you want, but after marriage you can be together every day. During the period of dating, you can cancel a date when you are in a bad mood and do whatever you want. But it is not the same after marriage. Even if you are in a bad mood, you still have to go to work and earn money to support the family. When you go home, you still have to cook, buy groceries, wash dishes and clothes, and educate the children. People get married to meet emotional needs, sexual needs, the need for stability, and the need to pass on the family line. Marriage is a contract. From now on, both people must do what they should do, assume responsibilities, and fulfill obligations, and naturally they have to pay a certain price.

3. Obsessed with love:

It feels good to be in love, it's very relaxing, why do we need to tie two people together with a marriage certificate? Marriage is too troublesome, it's better to be lovers, if you are compatible, you can stay together, if you are not compatible, you can separate, without psychological burden. They "rationally" think that after a long time, there will always be a time when they get tired of each other, why bother to restrict others and themselves? Therefore, they always take a wait-and-see attitude towards marriage, and are unwilling to bet their happiness on their future spouse. Those who are narrow-minded and obsessed with the world of two people all day long are the most hopeless in the eyes of those who fear marriage.

If you suffer from a phobia, you must first build up your confidence and bravely face the things you fear. Don't avoid them out of fear.