Selective disorder

In life, we often face choices, and we become hesitant and unable to make up our minds. Girls face multiple choices when buying clothes: the same style of clothes in different colors. However, they will be troubled by which one looks better and which one suits their skin tone better...they keep worrying and struggling. This is selective disorder. There are many people with selective disorder in life.

The same intersection leads to the same destination, but many people are confused about which road to take. I have already bought a pink dress, but I will still be confused about whether the green one would look better... Selective disorder is not a disease, but a mentality of pursuing perfection that makes you more strict with yourself. Over time, it will make you mentally exhausted and anxious.

The so-called selective disorder means that it is difficult to choose between different methods, ways, and routes that can achieve the same goal. Even after making a decision, one still doubts whether other options are better, which leads to a waste of time and mental anxiety.

Selective disorders are generally manifested in daily life. For example, when women go shopping, they may like the same style of clothes but in different colors, but they may not like that one, which leads to indecision and inner conflict. After finally choosing one, you have to keep asking others whether it is suitable for you. If others’ answer is no, this distress will aggravate your mood. For example, when standing at an intersection, there are two routes to reach the destination, but you are hesitant in making the choice, always wondering which route to take. Even after walking a few dozen meters, you may still turn around and take the other route. These are all manifestations of selective disorder.

Selective disorder stems from a morbid pursuit of perfection. People want to achieve perfection in everything they do and leave no regrets. This kind of psychology should be taken seriously by contemporary people. If the disease is allowed to develop, it will lead to inattention, affect sleep, feel depressed, and be in a trance. These are all precursors to depression.

In this situation, whether it is food, clothing, housing and transportation, when it is difficult to make a choice, you can try to recall the choice you made last time, or refer to the choices of others. Once you have made up your mind, try not to change it. For example: only eat instant noodles with Master Kong's braised beef, only drink mineral water from Nongfu Spring, only wear Li Ning shoes, only go to a certain restaurant, etc. And we must be sure of our own choices, think more about the advantages and benefits of our choices, and don’t worry about whether other choices are better, because what we need is the result, not the process.

For many things, we should not be fussy about details and only focus on the results. As long as the results are perfect and achieve our goals, we don’t need to care about the process. The same goes for people with selective disorders. When they see clothes they like, they should buy them decisively. The first impression is important, and don't worry about the difference in color. Just be happy. For anything, be decisive and don't be indecisive, which will only make yourself tired.