How to handle interpersonal relationships well

When we were young, our parents often paid great attention to the development of our IQ, believing that smarter children would show stronger talents in learning and achieve better results. However, as they get older, many people find that people with high IQ but low EQ find it difficult to gain a foothold in society, and only people with high EQ can have a good network of relationships. So, how to handle interpersonal relationships well has become a new problem for many people.

Many times, people tend to forget the good things others have done for them, but once an unintentional offense occurs, they always hold a grudge and become unable to communicate with each other, or even stop communicating with each other until they die. Think about whether there are such examples around us. In life, we inevitably have to interact with others. If we want to live a happy life, we must handle the relationship between ourselves and the people around us well.

To handle interpersonal relationships well, you must remember three sentences: "Look at people's strengths, help people in difficulties, and remember people's good deeds."

01. Look at people’s strengths.

No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings. If you always focus on other people's shortcomings, your relationship will definitely not be good, no matter how close your relationship was before. On the contrary, learn to think from their perspective and look more at their strengths, you will find that the more you look at others, the more you like them, and you will be able to get along well with others and know how to use their strengths. A single flower does not make spring, but when all flowers bloom, the garden fills with spring. Only those who know how to get along with others in a friendly manner can succeed. If you know how to use people's strengths, you will possess the qualities of a leader.

02. Help people in trouble.

When others are in trouble, extend your helping hand. It may be a simple task or it may require some effort. As long as you can do it, it will be fine. It is better to provide timely help than to provide icing on the cake.

Even if you help someone when he is in high spirits, he may not remember you. When you help others when they are in need, they will remember your kindness for the rest of their lives. When you are in trouble, others will also help you, and your path will become wider and wider. For example, some things that we often encounter in life, such as illness and hospitalization, weddings and funerals, natural disasters and man-made disasters, etc., your help, your greetings, or even a text message will be like a warm spring breeze and water, completely narrowing the psychological distance between each other.

03. Remember the good things people do for you.

Just always be grateful. You know, from birth to death, every bit of progress and every drop of gain of every person depends on the help of parents, family and friends. Only by always remembering the good things about others can you have sunshine every day, be accompanied by friends every day, and be accompanied by happiness throughout your life; on the contrary, always remembering the faults of others will only make yourself suffer.

Getting along with others is actually not that difficult. If you master the above principles, your interpersonal relationships will become smoother and smoother.