Why don't I feel anything during sex

It is very normal and natural for a couple to have sex. Generally speaking, sexual intercourse can bring physical pleasure to both men and women, and is also conducive to promoting the relationship between husband and wife. However, some people find that they don’t have any special feelings or pleasure during intercourse. This may be caused by the lack of emotions of both parties or by sexual diseases. So, what is the reason if you don’t feel anything during sex?

I don't feel anything during sex, what's going on?

1. No feeling in sexual life is due to orgasm disorder

Orgasmic disorder, also known as lack of sexual pleasure, refers to the inability of women to reach orgasm or the lack of obvious sexual pleasure during sexual intercourse. This is the most common condition of sexual dysfunction in women. Some women cannot reach orgasm for a long time after marriage, and only reach orgasm after giving birth. Except for a very small number of women who suffer from "primary orgasm anomaly", that is, they have never or cannot reach orgasm during sex, most women suffer from "secondary orgasm anomaly", that is, they have had orgasm during sex, but later due to certain factors and stimulation, although all four stages of sexual response exist, they cannot experience pleasure.

2. No feeling during sex is due to vaginal relaxation

In fact, the so-called vaginal relaxation refers to the fact that the tissues of the vaginal wall or the supporting ligaments and diaphragms of the pelvic cavity cannot maintain their original tight structure for some reason, just like the eye bags or loose forehead cortex of the elderly, showing sagging phenomenon. The main causes of vaginal wall relaxation are congenital structural relaxation, vaginal expansion and weakened muscle elasticity after miscarriage or childbirth, and prolapse caused by long-term chronic abdominal high pressure such as long-term lifting of heavy objects or chronic coughing.

3. The lack of feeling in sex is due to problems in the intimate relationship

Problems in the intimate relationship between sexual partners affect the intimacy between the two; worries about STDs and AIDS; worries about pregnancy; worries about being discovered by others; worries about not being sexy enough; worries about pain; special expectations for various sexual feelings that "should" occur; special expectations for experiencing orgasms; various negative life events, etc., will temporarily or permanently close the sexual response gate in the female brain. This is common in all kinds of intimate relationships.

How can women feel sex?

1. It is easiest to get into the situation when you have a strong desire, want it very much, and are in a relaxed mood. For example, one interviewee had the following experience: "The best time was when I went home from a friend's house after a drink and a chat. It was already past five in the morning, and my brother was sleeping in the room. I asked him to wash his face and take a rest before going back, but he hugged me and said, 'I want it!' That time we didn't dare to speak loudly in the room for fear of waking up my brother, but we both reached orgasm at the same time... It felt great!"

2. The other party behaved well, was considerate and had good skills. One interviewee said: "The best sex experience was with my fourth boyfriend. He was a photographer, very romantic, gentle, and cool looking. Being with him always brought some unexpected surprises. Having sex with him was a very beautiful thing. He would always find a comfortable place, play music, and drink some wine. Most importantly, he would pay attention to my feelings. He was not the kind of person who would fall asleep right after sex. He would fill a pool with warm water and bathe with me. I will never forget that feeling."

3. The two people are affectionately connected, have romantic foreplay, feel that they understand each other and are deeply cherished by each other. This usually happens between lovers who are deeply in love, but there are also special examples, such as the experience of one interviewee: "So far, the best sex I have ever had was with a foreigner. At that time, I had been divorced for two years, and he may have seen my needs. At nine o'clock in the evening in the hotel where he was staying, he poured me a glass of beer. We chatted on the sofa first, and we both had a good feeling. He kissed my ears and cheeks, and hugged me tightly. At that moment, I felt really beautiful. I have never had such a feeling of being bitten.

Female orgasm symptoms

1. Redness appears on the body

When you are sexually excited, petal-like red spots will appear on your body. This is the blush on your skin before orgasm. The blushing of female skin due to sexual excitement mainly appears on the face, chest, and breasts, and some people may also experience redness all over the body.

2. Rapid breathing and heartbeat

Everyone will experience shortness of breath and accelerated heartbeat when they are excited. The same is true when they are sexually excited. Their blood pressure will rise and their muscles will contract. Their breathing may become continuous, as if they are out of breath. During orgasm, their heart rate may even exceed 100 to 120 beats per minute, just like after strenuous exercise.

3. Changes in feelings

When women reach orgasm, some may experience confusion, decreased vision and hearing, or even temporary fainting; some women may also experience decreased or absent sense of taste and smell. When entering the regression phase, it gradually returns to normal.

4. Breast congestion and nipple hardening

When sexually excited, both men and women will experience breast congestion and hard nipples. When reaching orgasm, women's breasts will usually become congested and red, their nipples will be pointed, or their areolas will be swollen.