Where should I hit a disobedient child?

If a child is disobedient, education should be the main approach, and never hitting the child should be avoided. Never believe that beating a stick can make a filial son. Never believe that beating a stick can make a child obedient. Whether a child is obedient or not is a neutral word. When children reach a certain age, they will have a certain rebellious mentality. At this time, they must be well guided. If the guidance is not done well, they may develop a stronger rebellious mentality, which is not conducive to the child's education.

How to educate children who are disobedient

There are always some special internal reasons why children are disobedient. At this time, parents should pay attention to observation and analysis to find the right reasons. We should observe children carefully, guide them patiently, and never let them confront each other. Be clear about your rules, but make sure your child knows what they are.

1. Divert your child’s attention

Children will go through a period of rebellious psychology when they reach a certain age. They will not do what the adults say, which means they are disobedient. When you encounter such a child, you must patiently persuade him. If persuading him doesn't work after a long time, you might as well put the matter aside and do something else to divert the child's attention. Then, after a while, you can guide and persuade the child again, and perhaps the effect will be much better.

2. Find out the cause and prescribe the right remedy

There are always some special internal reasons why children are disobedient. At this time, parents should pay attention to observation and analysis to find the right reasons. For example, if a child feels aggrieved and unhappy but cannot express it and cannot let it go, he will take the opportunity to vent to his parents and go against his parents in everything. At this time, we need to find a way to help children release their inner grievances. For example, if a child is sick, feels unwell, and feels upset, but the adults do not notice it and still treat the child in the usual way, the child will become particularly stubborn.

In short, we must observe children carefully, guide them patiently, and never let both sides hold a stalemate. If this continues, either the adults will eventually be no match for the children and will end up listening to the children, thus encouraging the children's bad temper of making a fuss whenever they are dissatisfied with something; or the parents will not be able to help but beat the children, causing harm to the children's hearts.

3. Set certain rules for your baby

Be clear about your rules, but make sure your child knows what they are. Tell him clearly: "We can't hit people. If you are angry, tell Mingming that you want the toy back." Or "Don't forget to hold your mother's hand in the parking lot."

If your child has trouble following these rules (and every child does), then find another solution. For example, if he hits his sister because he feels left out, have him help feed or bathe her, and then schedule special times for him to be alone with you. If he slips out of bed because he's afraid of the dark, place a flashlight on his bedside table.