What to do if the child is ignorant

I often see a lot of stories about naughty kids on the Internet. Children’s ignorance is closely related to their parents, and preschool education is relatively important. It has almost become politically correct to make fun of naughty children online. In fact, as children, they must be given a good education. They should not be spoiled too much or allowed to develop too much dependence. They should be allowed to do more things by themselves, learn to share, and stay away from dangerous things.

What to do if the child is ignorant

First, children should not be spoiled.

Children can be spoiled, but it depends on how you spoil them. You can spoil them with food and drink, but there must be a limit. You cannot give children whatever they want to eat. Never give them things that are not nutritious, even once, because if there is a first time, there will be a next time. Parents must understand that love and spoiling are different.

Second, don’t let your children become overly dependent.

Most of the children nowadays are spoiled by their grandparents, so the parents should do a good job in ideological work among the elderly. For some things, as long as the child can do it by himself, even if there are some difficulties, you must let him do it by himself. Don't help if you can avoid it. Too much help will lead to laziness in children, and gradually the children will develop a strong sense of dependence.

Third, let children learn to share.

Most children nowadays have strong personalities, which is partly related to their parents' pampering. Don't let your children develop the habit of thinking that everything belongs to them. For example: My son, because I only have one child, he has had a strong personality since he was young. Later, I took away a portion of all his food and toys, and would not give them back no matter how much he cried or made a fuss. I also told him that if he didn’t share some of his things with others, then he should not touch other people’s things in the future. Gradually, he understood that not all things belong to him.

Fourth, let your children do more things by themselves.

If a child moves his hands more, it will be of great benefit to his brain. I don’t know what other people’s children are like, but my son was breastfed from birth until he was over ten months old, when he started eating complementary foods. He started eating by himself when he was less than one year old, and I never feed him. Ever since he was able to pick up the spoon and put food into his mouth, I no longer had to worry about him. As long as he kept his utensils clean and wore his own apron, he could eat however he wanted as long as he was full. I then slowly cultivated his eating habits. Let him choose some toys that he can accept, let him touch and do it by himself. Don't worry about how he does it. He will have his own methods. Don't interfere with him too much. Cultivate his independent thinking.

Fifth, let children find ways to stay away from danger on their own.

The safety of children is every parent's biggest concern. But children's curiosity often catches you off guard. I often let my son watch some safety education cartoons. Many of them can be found on the computer, but the watching time should not be too long. It is beneficial for children to like watching some cartoons. My son loves watching Boonie Bears. He used to be curious about wires, sockets and the like, but after seeing the scene where Bald Qiang was electrocuted and turned black, he never touched anything like electricity again. He was also very curious about scissors. Every time he played with them, I didn't stop him. I just watched him and taught him how to use them. I said, you can play with them, but if you hurt yourself, you will be punished. Once he cut his finger and it bled a little. I deliberately ignored him and punished him to stand for an hour and recite the Tang poems he had just learned twenty times. Since then, he never touched scissors again. So, I think, if you want to keep your child away from danger, you must let him discover it himself in life and experience some small punishments, so that he will remember it.

Sixth, let your child know that crying and making a fuss will not solve the problem.

Perhaps many parents cannot stand their children crying and making a fuss, and will satisfy their various demands as soon as they cry. If it is for the good of the children, they must never do this. I remember the first time I beat my son was because he was crying and making a fuss. He cried for a toy that I didn’t want to buy him, so he started crying. I was very angry and beat him but didn’t buy him the toy. I told him that the more he cried and made a fuss, the less likely it would be that his requests would be met, and he would get beaten even more. From then on, he never cried loudly outside for any request.