What to do when junior high school students fall in love, parents should pay attention to early love

Nowadays, children are becoming more and more mature. Some of them start dating when they are just in junior high school. This is a headache for parents. Faced with the phenomenon of junior high school students dating, parents should not blindly stop it. Instead, they should communicate with their children more in time, handle the situation calmly, and let their children pass through this stage smoothly.

1. Keep calm and handle it calmly

Parents must first have a correct understanding and realize that "premature love" is a normal behavior of boys and girls in adolescence. Adolescents in this period will have a special curiosity and closeness to the opposite sex, but some are more obvious and some are more hidden. In other words, it is inevitable for children to fall in love early. Don't think that children who fall in love early have become bad or degenerate.

If parents discover that their children are in "premature love", they will immediately regard it as a scourge and a heinous crime. They will become furious and make a big fuss, or they will rush to tell the teacher and the other parent, angrily scold and beat the child, causing a sensation in the whole city. This will definitely not have an ideal outcome.

Premature love is a kind of emotional privacy, and parents must keep it confidential for them. If possible, they should not let others know about it, even those who are very close to them. Things like children's premature love are like a spring. The harder you press it, the higher it bounces.

Some children who run away from home or elope together do so because they are under strong pressure from their families or schools. As parents and teachers, we must handle this matter calmly and rationally and not act too hastily.

2. Reasoning for a soft landing

A soft landing means letting the children realize their mistakes and correct them consciously and voluntarily. When parents find that their children are in a premature relationship, they should find the right opportunity according to the children's personality traits, appeal to their emotions, explain the reason to them, and help them with their heart. Let them understand the love and sincerity of their parents, and correct their mistakes from the bottom of their hearts.

This is the case with the father in the example above. Although he didn't say much to the "handsome boy", every word he said made sense and was spoken from the other person's perspective, making him feel deeply that it was for his own good. Therefore, he immediately accepted it "with a sincere attitude".

What he said to his daughter was sincere in its seriousness and philosophical in its depth, especially the quote from writer Liu Qing, which hit the nail on the head.

Believe that the vast majority of adolescents are reasonable. They can weigh the pros and cons and control themselves. In addition, when reasoning with them, it is best to share some knowledge about puberty so that they can understand their own physical and psychological characteristics from a scientific perspective.

3. Search, Isolation and Surveillance are Strictly Prohibited

Some parents, upon discovering their children are in early love, appear to be quite calm on the surface, but in fact they are highly nervous, on guard at every turn, and even use improper means to control their children's personal freedom:

The first is search: some parents search their children's school bags, clothes, drawers, etc. when their children are not paying attention, and confiscate all relevant photos, letters, greeting cards, etc. Once they find the so-called "evidence", they will criticize them severely.

The second is isolation: some parents find that their children show signs of premature love, so they do not allow their children to go out alone or answer calls from the opposite sex.

The third is surveillance: some parents are always worried and adopt the method of tracking their children wherever they go. These three methods are not fair and are not advisable. They may make things awkward and even directly damage the relationship between parents and children.