What to do if your child falls in love prematurely

Puppy love refers to the love between teenagers during adolescence. Many phenomena that emerge during adolescence are called puppy love. It refers to the state of love between minors before they reach adulthood. Many teenagers have shown this type of behavior after entering puberty, and parents are quite worried because premature love affects their studies, and many premature love phenomena can lead to criminality, so many parents are concerned about how to deal with premature love.

The phenomenon of premature love is mainly caused by some psychological states during adolescence. Many teenagers do not know what premature love is, but they just have a one-sided liking for the other party. The harm of premature love is also relatively large. Many parents must correct this phenomenon in time. Many premature loves lead to children's psychological unhealthy.

1. Raise awareness and focus on guidance, rather than blindly criticizing or brutally suppressing

In the usual sense, puppy love refers to romantic behavior that occurs among a specific group of adolescents who are not yet completely independent in terms of life and finances and are much younger than the legal age of marriage. The attitude towards this issue can only be active guidance and appropriate restrictions, rather than blind criticism and brutal suppression. Otherwise, it is likely to cause children to develop a rebellious or fearful mentality, resulting in the inability to properly handle relationships with the opposite sex, thus laying hidden dangers for future love and marriage.

"It's not surprising to simply express affection," many teachers say, as such interactions are not as complicated as those between adults. However, the vague concept of gender in the minds of primary school students can lead them to behave "out of line". Therefore, when faced with the "premature love" behavior of primary and secondary school students, teachers (especially class teachers) and parents should provide appropriate guidance and tell them what healthy "love" is.

2. Home-school collaboration, strengthening communication, and respecting and caring for each other in life and relationships

Among primary and secondary school students who fall in love prematurely, the vast majority come from problematic families. In some families, parents are divorced, in some families, there is violence, in some families, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, and so on. Children in these families do not enjoy tolerance and care among family members in their lives, and lack emotional warmth and respect. Adults are tired of life and busy with work. They have no time to pay attention to the needs of children and ignore the physical and psychological development of children during their growth. Therefore, children who grow up in such a family environment are eager for someone to share his (her) worries, and someone to give him (her) understanding and comfort. At this time, classmates of the opposite sex who are just beginning to fall in love become the best people to confide in.

Teachers and parents often regard children's premature love as a disaster. Criticism and scolding are commonplace, and there are also many cases of verbal abuse and beating. The personality of adolescent students is still in a relatively imperfect stage. Criticism from teachers, scolding from parents, and pressure from studying will all become the driving force that tilts the balance of their young minds toward peers of the opposite sex. Therefore, when children engage in premature love, the first thing teachers and parents should do is not to scold or beat the children, but to reflect on whether they communicate with their children frequently in daily life and whether they give their children enough respect and warmth. When children regard teachers and parents as their friends and are willing to share their thoughts with them; when teachers and parents become children's close friends, people they trust, and can rationally help them analyze the pros and cons, the harm of early love will not be very serious.

The above is what to do if your child falls in love prematurely. Parents can correct it in time when they find that their children are in love prematurely. At the same time, psychological counseling and treatment for children is also critical. You can strengthen communication with your children. Many children fall in love prematurely because of lack of warmth and respect and care in their families. Therefore, parents must provide timely counseling and treatment for some of their children’s psychological activities.