How to recover psychologically after being cheated

As the Internet becomes more and more developed, people are falling victim to more and more scams. Just from the calls we answer and the emails we receive, we can see that online scammers are omnipresent. Many people are unable to correctly identify the methods of scammers, nor do they know how to deal with them, and often suffer psychological trauma after being cheated. This article mentions relevant examples and gives methods for psychological recovery after being cheated. Let’s learn about it together.

The deaths of the two college students are a cause for regret and have also attracted great attention from society. After being cheated, many people are not only extremely angry at the scammers, but they also constantly blame themselves and are almost on the verge of emotional collapse.

After a person confirms that he or she has been deceived, he or she will generally experience psychological trauma and feel disbelief, regret, anger, and imbalance. Especially when he or she learns that the loss is irreversible, he or she will feel even more frustrated and helpless. If you are immersed in it and cannot extricate yourself, it will affect your physical and mental health.

Why did Xu Yuyu pay the price of her life? On the one hand, the economic loss is a huge number for a poor person. Just like Xu Yuyu, 9,900 yuan is not a small sum of money for her, it is her hope to go to school. When the scammer took away her hopes, it was actually taking her life. She didn't know how she would raise the money to go to school in the future. This caused her inner psychological pressure and made her unable to withstand the blow. On the other hand, this money represented the hard work of her parents and was raised by the family through frugality, and it was all taken away in an instant. Strong self-blame, guilt, fear, and helplessness make her feel stupid for being cheated of her money so easily. She then engages in extreme self-attacks and subconsciously feels that she can never forgive herself no matter what.

Xu Yuyu’s departure plunged the entire family into helplessness and grief. In order to avoid similar tragedies, how can we adjust our mentality after being cheated of money so as to get out of the pain of being cheated?

1. Call the police and deal with it quickly

Once you realize that you have been cheated, you should report the case to the public security organs in time and let them investigate and track you.

2. Family members accompany and comfort you

Due to the psychological distress, the parties particularly want to have someone to talk to. Therefore, when they feel uncomfortable, they can take the initiative to find family members and friends to talk to, vent their emotions and release psychological pressure.

After such a traumatic event, the understanding and support of loved ones is the key to the person's recovery. Family members should spend more time with the patient, provide encouragement, listen to the patient's emotions, and provide physical support (such as hugs) in a timely manner to make the patient feel warm and supported.

Never complain or blame others, because the person involved is already feeling remorseful and guilty and is in a state of frustration. Otherwise, it will aggravate his or her negative psychological reaction and cause the victim to take extreme actions.

3. Learn to forgive yourself

It is very important to learn to forgive yourself. After being cheated, most people tend to blame themselves, thinking that if it weren't for their own stupidity and negligence, they would not have been deceived. In fact, whether a person is deceived often has little to do with IQ. Scammers have an endless stream of new tricks and are good at taking advantage of the psychological weaknesses of their clients, and you are not the only one who has been deceived.

4. Look at the problem from a different perspective and grow from it

Most people have experienced being scammed, and some people may suffer even greater losses. With the loss of huge sums of money, their sense of self-worth may also collapse. It is indeed sad when something happens to us, but this is our life experience and growth process. Without setbacks, growth and maturity will be very slow.

Where there is loss, there is gain. Think about what you have gained from this incident. Physical health is priceless. Although you lost money, fortunately your body is fine. You have summed up the experience and lessons and will never make the same mistakes again. You can also pass on the experience and lessons to people around you to prevent others from being deceived. This is also an opportunity to learn and grow, reminding us that we can only take on things if we can look at them in a broad mind and let go... When we learn to look at problems from a different angle, we will feel that we have gained a lot, our sense of self-worth will be rebuilt, and our psychology will be balanced.

5. Seek professional help

If you are in a particularly bad mood and don't know how to relieve it, you need to seek help from a professional psychologist in time to provide necessary psychological counseling so that you can let go of the pain of being deceived and re-establish a positive attitude.