Growing up with children

The healthy growth of children is what parents care about most. However, around us, many parents have to leave their children to be taken care of by their elders at home because of work, and leave home to work to earn living expenses for their children. There are also many parents who often leave their children alone at home, which is very detrimental to the growth of children. In fact, during a child’s growth stage, parents are the child’s world. Children do not care how much money their parents make, but they care whether their parents can grow up with them.

Many parents are confused about re-education and don’t know what to say so that their children will listen? How to accompany your children as they grow up so that they can grow up healthily! In fact, letting go is the best education parents can give their children.

How to grow up with your children?

1. We always hope that our children grow up healthy and happy, but in fact, setbacks in life are the most precious gifts for children. Only when children encounter unfairness will they know the value of fairness, only when they encounter betrayal will they know the value of sincerity, and only when they encounter loneliness will they know the value of family and friends. So letting go and allowing children to live boldly and try boldly is what is good for children. We will always encounter many bad things in our lives. The most important thing is that we accompany our children, guide them, and let them grow up on their own when they encounter them.

2. Nowadays, we always see the scene of a family revolving around a child, one chasing her to eat, one holding her up for fear that she will fall, and one wiping her mouth. The family pays too much attention to the child, which leads the child to think that she is the center of the family and everyone must focus on her. When there are guests or when other people’s children are spoiled, the child will be unhappy and start to lose her temper. Therefore, as parents, the most taboo thing for us is to take the child too seriously and regard the child as the center of the world. This will be very bad for her in the future when she joins a group. She is likely to do some bad things because of the neglect of others.

3. We often see that when many children gather together, there are always some children who are ignored. At this time, we parents may want to help the children, talk to them, or let them play with other children, especially our own children. We hope that they can integrate into the group and play with other children. But in fact, we don’t need to be so anxious to comfort her or let her play with other children. In fact, when she plays alone, she will find herself lonely and think about her own problems. She may actively want to integrate into the group in the next second. So as parents, what we have to do is let go and let our children grow up on their own.

4. We always hope that everything children come into contact with is beautiful and that they maintain their innocence, but in fact such innocence is sometimes a harm to them. They may be easily deceived and trust others. Sometimes when we see poor disabled beggars on the roadside, we can't help but want to help them. But in fact, it is best for them to know whether the disabled beggars are really disabled and whether they really need help, so that they can recognize the facts and distinguish right from wrong.

5. We can occasionally give children some freedom to use their pocket money. This can help them to buy something and give them a sense of saving money. It can also have a delayed gratification effect on them. This can help them to be more patient. We can formulate some rules and complete some tasks. After they have done so, they can get some rewards. If they make mistakes, there will be some punishments accordingly. This will let children know that hard work will pay off.

6. I believe that many parents have enrolled their children in many cram schools, tutoring classes, and art classes. Most of the children are unwilling to go to these classes because they don’t know what significance these classes will have for their future. At this time, parents will always instill some inspirational words, saying that learning is actually a very happy thing, but the children don’t understand that at all. Instead, they should tell their children that the road of life is always more bitter than sweet, and that there will be sweetness only after suffering. Children should suffer more when they are young so that their future road will be sweeter.

7. The last point, which I think is also the best experience, is to take your children to summer camps or some activities where they can experience the hardships of the working people and the sufferings of the countryside. Only then will the children really feel their own happiness and understand many truths and common sense of life. Therefore, during the winter and summer vacations, it is recommended to take your children to live in the countryside for a period of time. Not to travel and sightsee, but to really take the children to work in the fields together, and boldly let go and let the children grow. I believe that the children will definitely show surprising performance.

If parents just take care of their children as they grow up, the children's world will be lonely. You ignore your child's today! Children will ignore your tomorrow!