I can't sleep with my boyfriend

Many people have been single for too long and are used to sleeping alone. It is difficult to fall asleep when there is someone else lying next to you. This is a normal physiological phenomenon. However, if this happens for a long time, it will not only cause trouble to yourself, but also confuse your family. So we need to make some changes to make ourselves more relaxed when facing our boyfriends. So, what should you do if you can’t sleep with your boyfriend?

1. Arrange your sleeping environment carefully

First, a darker, quieter environment is generally conducive to sleep because darkness triggers the pineal gland to produce melatonin, the hormone that controls the day-night cycle (your 24-hour biological clock). Use curtains to block out external light sources. If you don’t want to draw the curtains for ventilation, you can also choose a loose eye mask for yourself. If you are sensitive to sound and the person you live in the same room with happens to make some noises from time to time when sleeping (such as snoring), a pair of earplugs may be able to solve a big problem.

2. Let sleep flow naturally and avoid forcing yourself

It will be easier for you to transition into sleep at night because your body knows it's time. You can do anything to prepare yourself mentally for sleep (read a few pages or meditate for a while). It’s also important to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day – even on the weekends. If you still can't fall asleep within half an hour, don't lie in bed and feel sad. Just do something else to relax, like listening to soothing music or reading a magazine.

3. Sufficient and regular exercise

The exercise mentioned here includes both physical labor and mental labor. Many studies have shown that using the brain will cause the brain to produce a substance called adenosine. When this substance accumulates to a certain level in the brain, it will make people feel sleepy. Needless to say, exercise and physical exertion will make people feel tired. Both mental and physical exertion must be consumed to feel truly tired and to increase the time of deep sleep. It is recommended to walk for at least half an hour every day, but it is not recommended to do too strenuous exercise, especially before going to bed.

4. Eat a healthy diet

Being too full or too hungry will affect sleep, especially if you fill your stomach too full right before going to bed, which can easily cause gastroesophageal reflux while sleeping. Drinking a glass of milk before going to bed can trigger the release of serotonin in the brain, which can help you relax your body and mind. In addition, you should also be wary of caffeine in your diet. Everyone has different tolerance to caffeine, but if you have sleep problems, it is recommended that you stay away from caffeine and don't let it keep you awake until dawn.

5. Peace of mind

You can try writing a sleep diary, recording what you did every day and try to make a summary of each day. Don’t worry too much about your sleep quality. Healthy people can also get sick. Occasional insomnia doesn’t mean anything, so don’t worry too much. You can also try muscle relaxation therapy by tightening your toes, holding for 3 to 4 seconds, and then relaxing. Tighten your buttocks muscles, hold for 3 to 4 seconds, and then relax. Open your mouth as wide as you can, stretch your facial muscles, hold for a few seconds, and then relax. Afterwards, you will feel that your body is completely relaxed and it is easier to fall asleep.

6. Go to the hospital for a check-up

If you suspect you have a primary sleep disorder, such as sleep apnea, please seek medical attention immediately and follow the guidance of a professional doctor.