What are the top ten reasons for divorce?

Therefore, with the development of society, people's emotions fluctuate more and more, especially the relationship between husband and wife is tested more and more, and people's hearts have become impetuous, and the cost of divorce is very low now. In such an environment, the divorce rate is generally high. But in general, no one wants to divorce, so you must manage your marriage in advance. The following is a detailed introduction to the many reasons that lead to divorce. I hope that couples will pay attention to it.

Top 10 reasons for divorce:

1. The other party or the person cheated

This reason is the highest cause of divorce and has become a problem for 50% of divorced couples. Generally speaking, the possibility of a man getting divorced after cheating is lower than that of a woman. Once a woman cheats, few men can accept such a "flawed" woman. Even if she returns to the family, they will divorce within a short time.

This depends on the spouse's acceptance level. If the other party is mentally mysophobic, no matter how you win him back, he will never accept you back. If the other party has deep feelings for you and is willing to accept you, you will probably have to be submissive to him/her for the rest of your life, otherwise he/she will definitely bring up old issues.

2. Lack of emotional foundation

Not all couples get married for love. There are many reasons for getting married, such as being urged to get married by family, being impulsive, or just being angry. Such couples who lack emotional foundation are the killers of divorce. Even couples with a deep emotional foundation will quarrel because of adjustment, let alone two people without any emotional foundation?

Marriage is not love. Feelings must be the most important thing for both parties to come together. Even for a couple who lack an emotional foundation, when they decide to get married, they must have seen some shining points in each other. So if you don’t want to get divorced, you must remember your original intention and be good at discovering the shining points of each other. The other thing is to understand each other’s personality as soon as possible and cultivate the feelings of both parties.

3. Personality incompatibility

Incompatibility of personality is more likely to happen between couples who have not been together for a long time. They do not have a very deep understanding of each other, nor do they understand each other's temperament and character. The two people have very different personalities, and cannot tolerate the differences between each other. In the end, they have no way to live together and finally choose to divorce.

There are no two people in the world who are exactly the same. Couples with similar or opposite personalities can live together until old age. But even if they have incompatible personalities, what the couple should do is to understand each other's temperament and character and not touch the bottom line of each other's character.

4. Disharmony in Sexual Life

Sex life is an important way for couples to communicate and interact. Whether they admit it or not, it is a fact. No matter what the reason for the divorce, sex life must be an important indicator of whether the marriage is happy. How many sexless marriages end in breakup? After all, this is a very private matter and it is not easy to peek into it, but the proportion must be high.

Sexual disharmony. Unless one is born with sexual indifference, normal men and women are not born with sexual indifference. It is only when they do not reach orgasm after a few sexual intercourses or the experience is not very good, or there is a problem in the relationship between them, that the sex life becomes more disharmonious. The first thing to solve must be what is the reason for the disharmony in sexual life.

5. Incompatible living habits

One person is used to eating noodles with garlic, while the other likes to drink porridge every day. One person is used to taking a bath once a week, but she wants to take a bath every day. Although these are small things in life, marriage is a down-to-earth thing, and everyone will quarrel over these trivial matters.

Whether in the south or the north, and even transnational marriages are becoming more and more common, incompatibility of living habits is not the real reason for divorce, but rather the intolerance of each other by both parties. If one party is willing to accommodate the other party, or both parties take a step back, it will not come to the point of divorce.

6. Because of money

Poor couples have many worries, and so do rich couples. Is money the root of all evil? No, talent is the root of all evil. One thought in life can bring about two things, and Buddha and devil can exist in the blink of an eye. Money is a good thing, but human hearts are hard to figure out. How many couples can share adversity but not wealth? This is the charm of money, which has caused countless couples to live together in the same forest to eventually fly apart.

Everyone wants money, but between the relationship between husband and wife, which one is more important, the relationship between two people or money? This point must be made clear. If you value the relationship between husband and wife, don't always focus on the money. If you value money, it can only be said that the relationship between husband and wife is not good.

7. Domestic Violence

He is gentle and polite in front of others. He is obedient to me in everything when we are in love, and I have a very good feeling about him. But I don't know when it started, he started fighting with me for things that he didn't think were the cause. Maybe I have wanted to leave this man several times, but I couldn't make up my mind. Finally, at some moment, I suddenly gave up, figured it out, and finally decided to leave him.

Such men generally have psychological problems and will not change just by forgiving them. In this case, unless the man's psychological problems have really been solved, it is better to get a divorce!

8. Bad habits such as gambling

There is always a way to win back what you lose. This is the gambler's mentality. As long as there is capital to gamble, there will be another chance to turn things around. This is also the gambler's mentality. They don't think about the women and children they have to support at home, and fall into the abyss of gambling. Women usually give such men chances, but they just can't give them chances again and again.

It is said that a prodigal son who returns is worth more than gold. Many gamblers have repented after losing everything they have. In the end, they regretted their past actions, but the family has already been broken up. If they do not want to divorce, the other party must completely stop gambling and start a down-to-earth life.

9. Disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be a problem that exists in every family to a greater or lesser extent. After all, women are naturally sensitive. In addition, when a daughter-in-law suddenly enters another family from her original family, it is inevitable that she will feel uncomfortable. If both the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have strong personalities, it will be more likely to cause friction between the two sides.

If there is already a serious problem of discord between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, there are several recommended solutions. One is to live separately. If the two people are not together, the marriage can be improved to the greatest extent and there will be less friction. Another way is for the two people to compromise and give in, but this is unlikely because a conflict has already occurred.

10. The gap is getting bigger

The most terrifying thing in a marriage is that one party is trying hard to make progress, but the other party remains where he or she is. This leads to divorce because the gap becomes larger and larger. This usually happens to businessmen or women who have achieved great success in the workplace, because they have improved in all aspects, but the other party has not made any progress, and they have less and less common language.