Symptoms of heterosexual phobia

Some people have been living in an environment for a long time where it is difficult for them to come into contact with the opposite sex and they do not often communicate with the opposite sex, which can easily lead to heterosex phobia; some others have been severely hurt by the opposite sex, which can also easily lead to heterosex phobia. Even if the patient himself knows that this disease is incorrect, he still cannot control his inner fear and dare not communicate with the opposite sex. So what are the symptoms of heterosex phobia?

Heterophobia refers to the fact that on the one hand, the patient has a strong desire to get close to the opposite sex in his subconscious mind, and on the other hand, he also has severe anxiety, so he shows symptoms of abnormal tension and fear in front of the opposite sex, and some even have psychological symptoms such as delusions about opposite-sex relationships. The main manifestation of fear of the opposite sex is not daring to make eye contact with the opposite sex, let alone talk to the opposite sex. Even if talking to the opposite sex, the face will turn red and the speech will be unclear. Once seeing the opposite sex walking towards oneself, the whole body will be tense and sweat.

If two or more of the following symptoms are met, it means that the person being tested has typical heterosexual phobia

1. You are very nervous when interacting with the opposite sex. When the opposite sex actively interacts with you, you will refuse to interact in order to hide your nervousness.

2. When you are in a relationship with the opposite sex, you will not know where to put your hands, where to look, and you will be desperately concerned about your image.

3. When the opposite sex stares at you, you will be particularly afraid and even "angry"

4. When you are with the opposite sex, your brain forces you to have some weird thoughts, such as the other person likes you, hates you, or even has no clothes on.

5. Often afraid of what the opposite sex will do to you, and extremely insecure

6. Even if the opposite sex does not interact with you but just exists next to you, you will be overwhelmed and unable to concentrate.

7. Blushing, dry mouth, sweating, shaking...

8. Having experienced hurt from the opposite sex in love and marriage leads to distrust and lack of interest in the opposite sex.

First , increase the chances of contact with the opposite sex. The less contact you have, the less experience you have; the less experience you have, the more lost you are; the more lost you are, the more terrified you feel. If the problem is caused by too little contact, then this problem should be solved by increasing contact with the opposite sex. If you keep hiding, it will form a vicious cycle.

Second , properly deal with the psychological setbacks suffered from interacting with the opposite sex. Some friends may have suffered losses or been ridiculed when dealing with the opposite sex, and feel very embarrassed when they see the opposite sex again. Frustration leads to embarrassment, embarrassment leads to disgust, and finally disgust develops into fear. If this is the case, you must avoid generalizing and thinking that all people of the opposite sex are scary. This conclusion is incorrect. You cannot deny your ability to interact with the opposite sex because of setbacks, nor can you stop interacting with the opposite sex because of setbacks.

The third is the influence of feudal traditional ideas. Therefore, they are always highly alert and nervous when facing the opposite sex, and take interactions with the opposite sex too seriously. Associate the opposite sex with fear, be afraid when you think about it, and be even more afraid when you see it. Over time, a conditioned reflex will be formed, which will lead to serious psychological disorders. Therefore, we must solve the problem from the perspective of values ​​and treat interactions with the opposite sex as the most natural thing in human interactions.

The fourth is the fear of being ignored by the opposite sex. People are often like this. The more they want to succeed, the more afraid they are of making mistakes. The same is true when interacting with the opposite sex. If you are also afraid of being ignored, then you should expect to be ignored when dealing with the opposite sex. There will always be people of the opposite sex who like you and those who hate you, so you will definitely meet someone of the opposite sex who likes you, and he will definitely be enthusiastic towards you. With this plan, your fear of being ignored will gradually fade away.

The fifth is related to unresolved sexual distress during adolescence. Any young man or woman will have concerns and a desire to explore sex when they reach a critical age. However, since parents tend to adopt a closed-door approach in family education, boys and girls receive less positive guidance and inspiration. Their knowledge and understanding of sex are often acquired through intentional or unintentional capture, absorption, learning and observation in their own small environment. Most of them are one-sided and difficult to understand, so confusion is inevitable. For some people, this confusion will naturally be resolved as they grow older and gain more experience; for some others, it is not resolved and the confusion from early years remains for a long time, so that after adulthood, their sexual psychology and behavior are disturbed and they develop sexual psychology disorders.

1. A large part of heterosex phobia comes from the wrong teaching of parents. In China, some feudal ideas still exist, especially for girls, who are taught from a young age to keep themselves clean and to know some manners and etiquette. In fact, they also limit the joy of normal communication between men and women in another aspect. In fact, there are many similarities between the communication between the opposite sex and the same sex. They all hope to understand each other's inner world and boldly express their opinions on things that can resonate with them. Solving heterosex phobia is actually to enable patients to grasp the correct scale of communication between men and women.

2. Heterosexual phobia: For some beautiful women, because they have experienced twisted pursuit and constant troubles due to their beauty, they have become intolerant of normal compliments ever since. Scientific treatment should not be generalized. In fact, everyone's social psychology is different, but for women, they should believe that the vast majority of interactions in the world should be well-intentioned.

3. Most heterosexual phobias stem from nightmarish experiences in the past. Past emotional setbacks and failed marriages have left women with both physical and mental damage, which takes a long time to heal. This kind of mentality causes women to reflexively and firmly refuse when they encounter passionate pursuit, no matter how much they desire it in their hearts. Women are most vulnerable to hurt in love and marriage, especially the scars on the heart which may become permanent scars. Therefore, it is necessary to find a specific medicine to gradually smooth out the scars on the heart. The panacea mentioned here is love and happiness. Be brave to accept your true heart and don’t let shadows occupy your life. All the hurt and fear will become a thing of the past.