The importance of parents accompanying their children

With the development of modern transportation technology and the very uneven regional development in our country, many people in backward areas have to go out to work, which has also caused many left-behind children. There are also many parents who are too busy at work and have no time to spend with their children. In both cases, the child lacks parental companionship during his or her growth. It is very important for parents to accompany their children as they grow up. Let us understand this importance today.

Influence on children’s gender role identity

Fathers provide boys with the power of role models and give girls a sense of security. Many studies have found that if a boy lacks a father figure before the age of 4, he will lack masculine strength and be easily feminized; if a girl lacks fatherly love before the age of 5, she will be anxious, shy or at a loss when interacting with boys during adolescence.

Influence on the formation of children's personality

When fathers play games with their children, they often do so in a stimulating and exciting way. Children like this way of playing and this kind of interaction, and will gradually show confidence and happiness. This is how fathers subtly influence the formation of their children's qualities.

Affects children's intelligence level

Compared with mothers, fathers have stronger hands-on skills, such as repairing vehicles, electrical appliances, and gardening, which makes children interested in hands-on activities. In the process of hands-on operation, children can stimulate their desire for exploration, imagination and creativity. The stronger the hands-on practical ability, the more it can promote the development of intelligence level.

Influence on children's social behavior

This is because in the process of playing games with children, fathers help children establish game rules and cultivate a sense of rules. This sense of rules can improve children's self-control ability. Studies have shown that the lower the level of self-control, the more problem behaviors children have; the higher the level of self-control, the higher the level of socialized behavior.

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A father's influence on his children goes far beyond the above points, and also involves many aspects such as physical, emotional, and moral character. Children who have little contact with their fathers will have slower development in weight, height, movements, etc. They are generally anxious, lack self-esteem, and show depression, loneliness, willfulness, hyperactivity, and dependence. If a child lacks fatherly love for a long time, he or she may suffer from "lack of fatherly love syndrome", which will cause obstacles and defects in cognition, personality, emotion and other aspects.

Obama once said in a statement: "As a father of two daughters, I know that being a father is one of the most important jobs for any man." In his view, being a father is no less important than being president.

The influence of fathers on their children is unquestionable. Under the current objective conditions of high pressure in life and busy work, how can fathers do a good job of being fathers besides working? In fact, it is not as difficult as you think, as long as you can do these things with your children:

1. Exercise together

Relatively speaking, dad's motor nerves are more developed and he is more willing to sweat. Exercise is extremely beneficial to children's bones, muscles, cardiovascular system, etc. during their growth and development. Let dad take the children to play ball, run, and ride a bike regularly and fully enjoy the joy of sports.

2. Take your kids on an adventure

After children are three years old, they especially need their fathers to take them into nature to explore and adventure. If a child suffers minor injuries, the father usually won't make a fuss. If the child is in danger, the father will also respond in time and provide a safe adventure environment.

3. Get started together

Many fathers have a strong desire to explore and try things, and their hands-on nature makes them qualified experiential learning instructors. Only by accompanying children in their constant trial and error process can we teach them to be flexible and better adapt to this rapidly changing world.

4. Create a wonderful experience

The first time I went to a ball game or a movie with my dad...all the first times I shared with my dad are things that many people will never forget. Spending time with dad can bring children a sense of security and good memories, which can give children great strength and help them to be strong when they encounter difficulties and setbacks.

5. Read together

Reading is not just a simple process of acquiring knowledge, it also involves building parent-child relationships. It is in the process of reading with children that fathers help their children read, observe and think, thus building an intimate and warm parent-child relationship.