The root cause of psychological fragility

With the continuous improvement of living standards, there are more and more only children. Because of this, the psychology of many children is becoming more and more fragile, which will not only have a certain impact on their psychology, but also affect their growth and future. Therefore, it is particularly important to find the reasons for children's psychological fragility and learn to train their children's psychological quality. Parents need to choose appropriate methods for training according to the actual situation of their children.

1. The root cause of psychological fragility

Experts point out that most children nowadays are only children, and parents are afraid of letting their children down, so they are very cautious in many things. Children are not allowed to do things they can do, and are not allowed to participate in activities they can participate in. Over time, children's curious, playful, and adventurous natures are slowly destroyed, and they develop timid habits and a cowardly personality. As today's family living environment becomes more and more superior, children develop a pampered, self-centered, and lucky mentality that everything goes as it comes. Once you are not satisfied with something, you will feel very lost. At the same time, parents' indulgence and pampering also erode children's strong will, and excessive study burden destroys children's innocent childlike innocence. While parents indulge and spoil their children in life, they are extremely serious about their studies and are willing to choose a large number of tutors and a wide variety of interest classes for their children. Once the child fails to achieve the desired results, parents will often scold or even beat him or her. Faced with parental pressure, the child may engage in extreme behavior.

2. How to help children get out of the vicious circle of psychological fragility? Psychological experts suggest:

First, change the concept of family education and improve the quality of parents. Parents should not only provide their children with superior living conditions, but also teach them how to be a good person, how to be self-reliant, and how to cultivate good qualities such as optimism. At the same time, to cultivate the specialties that children possess, we must start from the children's reality and interests, and give them a free space to let them fly freely in the vast sky.

Second, intentionally set up obstacles to cultivate the ability to resist frustration. Everyone has to go through countless setbacks in the process of growing up. If a child always has smooth sailing, then once he encounters difficulties, he will become nervous and helpless. Parents should consciously create frustration situations for their children so that they can gain the ability to adapt to setbacks. But it should be noted that the difficulty of the obstacles should be set to a moderate level, otherwise repeated failures will easily cause children to feel inferior.

Third, provide timely guidance and deal with setbacks correctly. When children really encounter setbacks, parents cannot ignore them or adopt an "ignoring" attitude. Instead, they should help their children carefully analyze the causes of the setbacks and take the correct methods to overcome them. At the same time, children should be made to realize that setbacks themselves are not terrible, and the most important thing is to dare to face setbacks.