How should emotions be managed? Teach you tips on controlling your emotions

Nowadays, because of the great pressure, more than half of people suffer from mild depression. They usually do not pay attention to regulating their emotions, cannot control psychological changes, and are sad, angry, and sad about some things. These will cause strong stimulation to the cerebral cortex, which cannot be faded in the mind over time. Not only will they feel troubled, but it will also affect the people around them. Being a good emotional controller can not only help us solve some problems, but also avoid some irrational behaviors.

How to control your emotions

Pay attention to diversion and avoid stimulation. When you are sad, worried, or angry, a strong excitation focus will often appear in the human cerebral cortex. If you can consciously regulate the excitation and inhibition process of the brain and convert the excitation focus into an inhibited and peaceful state, you may maintain psychological balance and free yourself from negative emotions. For example, when you are depressed or worried, stop thinking about the things that cause you to be depressed, try to avoid the stimulation of your worries, consciously listen to music, watch TV, flip through picture albums, read novels, etc., and force yourself to divert your attention. This can transfer negative emotions to positive emotions, dilute or even forget the boredom. For example, when you encounter something difficult to solve, don’t think about it first. Let your mind grow wings, imagine freely, and travel in the fantasy world. You can also chat with others aimlessly, so as not to get stuck on difficult things and bring yourself unnecessary troubles. In this way, as the situation changes, you will be able to calmly solve problems and resolve conflicts, often achieving more satisfactory results.

Rational control and self-cooling Rational control refers to using willpower and literacy to control or alleviate the outbreak of negative emotions; self-cooling refers to trying to reduce angry emotions to a calm and suppressed state. That is to say, any rational person can be aware of changes in his or her emotions in time. When anger arises, he or she will immediately realize that something is wrong and can quickly calm down, actively control his or her emotions, use reason to reduce his or her anger, and keep his or her emotions stable. Lin Zexu hung a banner with the words "Control Your Anger" in his room to remind himself to control his emotions in time; the famous Russian writer Turgenev advised people to rotate their tongue tip ten times in their mouths before advising them to quarrel. The same principle applies to this.

Being magnanimous and self-disciplined makes people "selfless and broad-minded" and "broad-minded as a prime minister". People with a broad mind are open-minded, enterprising and have a spirit of teamwork; while people with a narrow mind are full of resentment, petty and end up being isolated. Life will be varied, with joy, sorrow and sadness. Therefore, everyone should pay attention to self-cultivation, eliminate depressed and unhappy moods and selfish thoughts, deal with things that easily anger them with an open-minded, optimistic, humorous and generous attitude, be able to withstand setbacks, and restrain themselves and not be narrow-minded. This can often make an originally tense situation become more relaxed and resolve an embarrassing situation with humor and laughter. "If you complain too much you'll break your heart, so you should always look at the big picture." Mental health encourages people to eliminate the troubles of negative emotions, to have normal and healthy emotional reactions, to be able to self-resolve when encountering sorrow, and to be able to transcend when facing adversity. This is beneficial to the physical and mental health of modern people.

Goal sublimation method: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. If used improperly, it will hurt others and yourself. If it is sublimated, it will become a powerful driving force for career success. We must cultivate ambitious life goals, change the habit of calculating gains and losses over trivial matters, and consider everything more from the overall and long-term perspective. Only when a person has established ambitious life ideals can he treat others with tolerance and have a greater tolerance, and will not tolerate his energy being hindered by trivial matters and hindering the pursuit of his ideal career.

The method of postponing evaluation: Anger comes from the evaluation of "stimulation", maybe it is a look from others, maybe it is a sarcasm from others, or even a misunderstanding of others. This incident made you "furious" at the time, but if you comment on it an hour, a week, or even a month later, you may think that your anger was "not worth it."

Vent your emotions reasonably. I wonder if you have noticed such scenes when watching TV and movies: someone, because of negative emotions, runs to the wilderness, the seaside, or the mountain and shouts freely, or hits trees desperately, or runs wildly. This is a reasonable way to vent your emotions. Proper emotional release means to relieve negative emotions in the right place and in the right way. Venting can prevent the harm of negative emotions to the human body.

1. Cry - have an appropriate cry. From a scientific point of view, crying is a measure of self-psychological protection. It can release the energy generated by negative emotions and regulate the balance of the body. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, worry and pain. For many people, after crying, the pain and sadness they feel will be reduced a lot.

2. Shout - shout as loudly as you can . When you are troubled by negative emotions, you can't help but cry out in pain and sympathy. Another method is to vent the inner depression through rapid, intense and unrestrained shouting.

3. Tell - confide your true feelings to your relatives and friends. Talking to a friend is a good way to vent. Hiding unpleasant things in your heart will increase your psychological burden. Finding someone to talk to about your troubles and express your true feelings can not only make you feel better, but also gain comfort, guidance and solutions to your problems from others. Please remember Bacon's famous saying: Tell your happiness to a friend and you will get two happinesses; tell your sorrow to a friend and you will only have half the sorrow left.

4. Move - engage in strenuous exercise. When a person is depressed, he tends to be less active. The less active he is, the harder it is to divert his attention, and the lower his mood becomes, which can easily form a vicious cycle. Therefore, you can change bad emotions through sports activities such as running and playing ball. Venting will not only fail to regulate negative emotions, but will also cause adverse consequences.