What to do if a couple quarrels and wants a divorce? Be careful when quarreling

It is normal for couples to quarrel, but it is abnormal to quarrel frequently and get divorced. Therefore, couples should be tactful when quarreling, not involve other people, and not threaten each other, especially treating marriage as a joke and mentioning divorce at every turn, which is the most hurtful.

1. Don’t involve other people

When two people have an argument, although they may temporarily lose their rationality due to the other party's "arrogance", they should not involve unrelated people no matter how angry they are. Whether it is parents, siblings, or best friends, when both parties are furious, the involvement of these innocent people will only expand the battlefield and may even rigidify each other's circle of relatives and social circles, which will not help resolve the conflict between the couple.

2. Don’t deny the other party completely

It is common to see couples arguing on the street because the wife feels that her husband does not adopt her shopping opinions or aesthetic standards. Even if her husband disobeys her just this time, she will say, "You never ask for my opinion and always act on your own" or "It's up to you! No matter what I do, you are dissatisfied." Such fabricated conversation will make the other party feel that you are deliberately finding fault or trying to intimidate him. Even if you are forced to give him a way out, he will probably still have resentment towards you in his heart. A smart wife should be good at giving her partner "sugar-coated bullets" so that she can win without fighting.

3. Don’t threaten others

Whether it is a wife or a husband, when they feel they can no longer tolerate it, they will easily talk about the word "divorce", and they will actually get divorced. Especially for middle-aged people, who are under great pressure in life and face many temptations in real society, it is easy for them to become irritable. In order to avoid this situation, neither party should blame the other, especially not blame the other for their own mistakes; in addition, if the couple reconciles, they should agree not to mention what happened one month ago. "Starting over" is the best thing.

4. Avoid quarreling with your parents

Every parent loves their children more, so when you have a big fight in front of your parents, they will often help their children instead of the one who is right. If the situation is serious, parents will even give their children advice on how to defeat the other party. In the long run, such a marriage has evolved into a power struggle, and the remaining feelings will sooner or later be exhausted in this tug-of-war. When a couple quarrels, it is best to avoid the elders and not complain about each other in front of their parents.