The impact of couples' quarrels on children, do you still dare?

It is very common for couples to quarrel, but have you thought about your children when you quarrel? Quarrels between couples have a great impact on children. Some quarrels may even cause psychological trauma to children, especially for children who are already sensible. Parents must not quarrel in front of their children.

1. Infancy

Babies have auditory responses on the first day of life, and their feelings about hearing include soothing, alerting, and painful. If a baby hears his parents' loud noises, he will feel pain, his body will become stiff, his nerves will contract, and he will close himself off to protect himself.

If infants are frequently stimulated by painful feelings, it will inevitably affect the development of their auditory and visual perceptions. In severe cases, they will develop sensory integration disorder in the future. Due to the poor development of visual-kinesthetic coordination, they will perform poorly on the test papers.

2. Early childhood

Children in their early childhood often see their parents quarreling and fighting, and they feel nervous and fearful. Due to their low cognitive level, young children cannot understand why their parents attack each other like enemies. They cannot distinguish who is right or wrong, and are even more unwilling to identify who is bad.

Some children think that they are bad and that they are psychological burdens, which can cause physiological reactions such as asthma, upper respiratory tract infections, and reduced immune function. If one of the parents is impulsive and has out-of-control emotions, the child may suffer from long-term bedwetting due to fright.

If the mother is attacked by violence, the child will feel extremely insecure, because if his mother, who is protecting her weak life, cannot protect herself, how can the child "survive"? Instinctive fear makes children retreat in kindergarten, become unsociable, afraid of being separated from their mothers, and have little desire to actively participate in activities. Among children, various mental and behavioral developments appear to be relatively backward.

3. Childhood

When children are young, parents often quarrel and make a fuss, which may cause humiliation to the children. If the parents quarrel about his own affairs, the child will seem very uncomfortable, feel that he is a bad child, have nightmares, feel inferior to other children, and be worried during class.

If parents keep talking about divorce in front of their children, it is like there is a sword hanging over the child's head. His life seems to be waiting for the sword to fall, and he truly lives in fear and worry. Such a child will have no mind to study, will have no interest in doing anything, will have worse and worse grades, and will have low self-esteem, which in turn will lead to the blow of low evaluation from the teacher, entering a vicious circle, which will have a certain impact on his future personality development.