How can an introvert improve his eloquence and become a communication expert?

Introverts are not good at speaking, which creates a great obstacle to their daily interpersonal communication and hinders their own success. Introverts can talk more, express their feelings boldly, and talk more about themselves with others, which will always make their eloquence better.

1. Talk more : Most books on interpersonal relationships say that people have two ears and one mouth, so they should listen more and talk less. But for introverts, it is important to cultivate self-confidence and courage. If you don't speak, how can you cultivate self-confidence and courage? Therefore, whenever you have the opportunity, you should speak, speak, speak and speak! Only in this way can you develop your self-confidence and courage.

2. Express your emotions more: interpersonal relationships rely not on IQ but on emotional quotient (EQ). Generally, introverts consider themselves to be very rational people. They always suppress their emotions and do not like to express their feelings. But to have good interpersonal relationships, you have to rely on emotional communication! Take talking about the weather as an example. Have you ever seen two people talking about the weather like this, one saying, "How's the weather today?" and the other saying, "Today is cloudy and turning to overcast, with northwest wind level five or six, and the highest temperature is 5 degrees." I'm afraid it's rare, right? Usually the other person will say, "Today's weather is so cold and windy, I'm shivering with cold!" or "Today's weather is nice, the sun is making me warm." He is expressing his own feelings and emotions, rather than just objectively describing the facts. But introverts are used to being rational and always hope that what they say is 100% objective and accurate. But in fact, it is boring and lifeless. And this requires a very high level of knowledge. If you are not familiar with the topic that others are talking about and you don't understand the situation, then you have nothing to say and can only stand there stupidly. In fact, you don't have to do this. You can express your feelings after listening to what others say! Are you feeling happy, excited, sad, or disappointed? You should express your feelings more. Maybe you will say: What if I express my feelings and cause others to be disgusted? Haven’t you studied success studies? Success studies teach us to have a positive and optimistic attitude. If you express your positive and optimistic feelings, others will not be disgusted. Of course, you also have to know the occasion. If a relative just passed away, don't act too happy! Haha, just kidding. In fact, you are so smart that you can grasp this sense of proportion very well. It's just that you have been suppressing yourself too much in the past and didn't realize the need to express your emotions to others.

3. Talk more about yourself: Interpersonal relationship books tell us to talk about things that the other person is interested in, talk more about the other person, and less about yourself. But if you really do this and care too much about others, you may be even more afraid to speak. So, to build your confidence and courage, just talk about yourself! The word FORMS reminds you what you can talk about.

F: Family. Talk about your family, relatives, and how you relate to them.

O: Occupation. Talk about your work, unit, your major, and the people and things in the unit.

R: Hobby. Talk about your hobbies, activities you like to participate in in your spare time, etc.

M: Money and dreams. Talk about what you would do if you didn't have to worry about money. Your ideals and dreams.

S: Special experience. Talk about something you've experienced that has had a profound impact on you.

Of course there are many others. As long as you want to talk, just say it. Because it is your own business and your personal experience, you will naturally speak of it in a vivid, emotional, and interesting way. How can introverts quickly improve their interpersonal skills? This is a hundred times better than just agreeing with others' opinions and saying irrelevant words!

For introverts, in order to improve their interpersonal skills, I think they should read more books on public speaking, such as "Breakthrough in Language" and "The Art of Public Speaking", and also read more lyrical articles to improve their ability to express emotions. Then speak and practice more to improve your confidence and courage. This is more in line with the actual needs of introverts than reading those books on interpersonal relationships that teach people to be loving.