What should you do if you have symptoms of pre-marital phobia

Marriage is sacred and great, and it is also a necessary path for every woman and man. However, with the increasing pressure of life and work in recent years, many young friends have become afraid of marriage before the wedding, causing their families to worry a lot. So what are the symptoms of pre-marital phobia? How to overcome it?

From a psychological perspective, we can find that most of the fears before marriage have the following aspects:

1. Afraid that you are not the right person and the person you truly love is not yourself. I believe that every couple’s life after marriage is happy and fulfilling at the beginning, and they are completely immersed in the sweet life of the two of them. After the marriage becomes dull for a period of time, the couple’s ability to act independently is indeed stronger, and they can maintain a good life without the need for each other. But this does not mean that the couple are becoming increasingly distant or even do not belong to the same world. On the contrary, their emotional dependence on each other is becoming stronger and stronger. Eventually they reached a very tacit understanding with each other.

2. Afraid of becoming a negative example in the eyes of others. In life, we inevitably hear a lot of complaints from many married couples, or examples that make you feel very discouraged, such as domestic violence, or extramarital affairs - you are always worried that your marriage will end up with the same result. This psychological state is understandable, but it cannot be a reason for us to be afraid of marriage. When we walk the path that our predecessors have walked, we can bypass stones and pits and reach our destination faster.

3. Will I lose myself after marriage? Most of those who have this idea are women. They feel that after getting married, they may lose their friends and jobs, and be forced to adapt to a new family environment and become his cook. Psychologists say that marriage is a job that two people work together to manage. Each party will make changes for the other while retaining their essence. In the constant running-in and adaptation, the two will eventually become the most suitable duo who support each other. You can have your family, your career, and your friends and besties at the same time.

It is very normal to have fears of one kind or another when facing marriage. You can regard the fear before marriage as "preventive measures", but it is not a stumbling block that prevents you from having a happy marriage. If you are really conflicted inside, don't avoid your psychological problems anymore, face them head on.