How did you develop a thick skin?

If you still think that being polite and courteous will work in society, then this is often incorrect. Nowadays, people with thick skin are needed. You will often find that thick-skinned people are more popular than thin-skinned people. At this time, you need to quickly develop a thick skin and become more generous and confident. So how do you become thick-skinned?

It's easy if you are thick-skinned. If you are in school, try to take part in more speeches. For example, when you are running for class committee, you can also give a speech. At first, it doesn't matter if you just say a few words. Being able to move up is progress. You can also play basketball and participate in some team sports. Read more humorous books and apply what you learn in practice. This is very important, a great tool for picking up girls.

If you are working, you can find some odd jobs on weekends. It would be best to hand out flyers on the roadside. I often did this on weekends when I was in college, and sometimes I would even set up a stall. If you are in high school, then focus on studying. Sometimes I am embarrassed to talk to others actively, and if others ignore me, I will also ignore them. But the result is that others think I am arrogant and pretentious, and my circle of friends becomes smaller and smaller. In fact, I am not that kind of person.

Anything takes time to change. Your personality cannot change overnight. I don't think you can do it. It may be difficult to take the initiative to answer people’s questions the first time you meet them, and your face may turn red. But after trying a few times, you will get used to it, and the habit will become natural. As for self-confidence, you need to find your own strengths. When you feel unconfident, think about the ways in which you are better than others. Maybe that will help.

I don't know if what I said is helpful to you, but for me, after working for more than five years, I believe more and more in the saying "to live, one must be shameless". Really, you should be ashamed. There are people with good conscience, but when a thick-skinned person gets benefits that do not belong to him, of course he is the one who is happy, not you. A thin-skinned person has nothing. For example, I have a female colleague who just got married. She pretended to be pregnant. She told me that she was pretending because she didn't want to go to social events and drink. But of course she wouldn't say that she was pretending in front of her boss. As a result, I had to do all the office work. If she didn't go to social events, I had to go (there were only two women in our office). She was not allowed to go to the countryside. In short, she was a key protected person, and I had to do much more than before. But she was even more proud in front of me and didn't feel embarrassed at all. What could I say? I couldn't betray her. So the sentence I gave her was "When a person is the meanest, he is invincible!"

Friendly reminder: Is it better to be thick-skinned or thin-skinned? In fact, if you want to take a deep breath, you need to improve yourself, and you need to know it as long as you are willing. Then life will teach you confidence and shamelessness! And society is the best university after all;