What to do if you have a bad temper

People with bad tempers are quite common. Many people have such bad tempers that they cannot even control themselves. They lose their temper without considering other people's feelings no matter what the occasion. They often regret it after they lose their temper and wonder why they cannot control themselves. In fact, when they lose their temper, they not only hurt themselves, but also their relatives and friends around them. Many people want to improve this state and make changes.

In fact, everyone has a temper. No one is born with a good or bad temper. It is just one's own ability to control that determines the extent of one's outburst and whether one can endure it. So if you want to improve your bad temper, you can only start with your own thoughts, consciousness, control ability, etc., and let yourself calm down slowly. Here are some methods, I hope they will be helpful to you.

I think everyone has this feeling, and no one can completely avoid it, so we can only improve it.

First of all, don't feel that you are oppressing yourself. Try to find some things in your life that you feel comfortable doing, such as the indulgence you mentioned, occasional indulgence, and then make some small plans for yourself. They should not be too difficult, but must be completed. If you can't complete them, look for the reasons. Find a notebook of your psychological journey and write it down. Looking at it when you are confused will help you improve your self-control.

Take losing weight as an example. Fat people usually have a strong appetite. In most cases, we can control ourselves. However, there are always times when we are in a bad mood. At this time, if we feel that we are already in a bad mood, and we have to restrict this and that, we will feel even worse, so we will eat as much as we can. This weight loss plan was interrupted again. But in real life we ​​may not be able to do well. Therefore, how to make yourself aware of the consequences when you are being emotional and guide yourself to think rationally should be a way to solve the problem of poor self-control. If this happens frequently, don't be shy about seeing a psychologist or talking to a close friend. Strengthening physical exercise can also improve your self-control ability.

If you like to use reason (consciousness), you can train your willpower. If you like to use sensibility (subconscious), you can use NAC, hypnosis, etc.

Some effective ways to supplement yourself are:

1. Write down your confusion and feelings. The process of writing is a process that promotes your own thinking, which can help you get out of one-sided emotions and deal with problems rationally. Talking to friends has a similar effect, because you also need to organize language to express your feelings.

2. Sometimes when you are in a bad mood, blaming yourself will only make the bad feeling worse. Just tell yourself that people always have bad moods sometimes. Give yourself some time to experience the feeling at this time. During this time, you can think about and do nothing, just relax and indulge yourself, put aside the current things for the time being, and do something you like, such as sports, singing, reading books, etc. But you still have to set a time limit for yourself. Keep a bottom line for your indulgence.

3. When you are in a bad mood, remind yourself to love yourself, live a happy life, and seek happiness in any circumstances. In this way, even if you are painful now, you are on the road to happiness.

Do everything calmly and keep a normal mind!

No matter what happens, don't force it, just let it take its course. Don't worry about it!

Also, you need to be optimistic, learn to be humorous, learn to let go, and learn to face things calmly, and you will be able to control your temper well.

1. When you are in a bad mood, please try not to speak to avoid offending others.

2. Please take a deep breath before speaking.

3. Find your own way to vent.

4. After venting, please keep smiling.

Everyone knows what to do when someone has a bad temper. If you or someone around you has such a temper, then don't hide so far away. Keep a distance from him, try to accept him, influence him through small things. Such people need the relationship and understanding of friends and family the most.