What will happen if you are often mean to your children?

In life, there are many parents who are often mean to their children just because they are naughty. Parents can do nothing about their children. In fact, if parents are often mean to their children, it will have a great impact on their children's growth. But some parents can't do anything about their children's naughtiness. I believe that if parents knew the bad effects of being mean to their children, they would definitely pay attention. What will it cause to be often mean to children? Let’s take a look at it next.

1. Timid and low self-esteem.

Children always like to grow up innocently and freely, and their personalities are formed after birth. For example, some children are naturally introverted and are often scolded by their parents. Over time, the children will become timid and unwilling to talk to others. Because such children do not truly feel the love of their parents and feel that they are not liked, they will develop inferiority complex over time.

2. Have no opinion of your own and like to read other people’s faces.

Because children are controlled by their parents for a long time, as long as they want to do something by themselves, their parents will control them and not let them do it by themselves. Over time, children will easily lose their own opinions and listen to their parents in everything. Parents think they are right, and will be mean and lose their temper with their children as long as the children do not do what they want. Such children will also be easily sensitive, always looking at other people's faces. In their future studies, work, and interpersonal relationships, they will always be afraid to express themselves and care about other people's opinions.

3. Bad temper.

It is said that parents are the best teachers for their children. Similarly, some problems of parents will also be reflected in their children. Many people describe children as follows: when you see this child, don’t look at his parents, they look exactly the same and have the same personality. This shows that parents’ daily practices have a great impact on their children.

Just like parents are often mean to their children and lose their temper for no reason, in fact, when the children are young, they especially hate this behavior and decide not to treat their children like this when they grow up. However, when they grow up, they often cannot control their own behavior, and they tend to have a bad temper and lose their temper frequently.

4. Rebellion.

My friend is a middle school teacher. Junior high school students are just entering puberty and are quite rebellious. But there is often a very rebellious student in the class who doesn't listen at all and doesn't want to go to school. My friend contacted the child’s parents and wanted to talk to them, but the parents had a bad temper and refused to cooperate at all, saying that the school was not able to manage its students well.

Later, my friend got to know the classmate in depth and took great pains to open up to him. It turned out that the child was rather naughty when he was young, and his parents were often mean to him and often went against the child's wishes. After a long time, the child develops a rebellious mentality, thinking that everything the parents say must be wrong. Gradually, he stops listening to his teachers at school and stops listening to anyone, making it impossible for others to do anything to him.

Parents have a very important influence on their children's lives. When raising a child, you should be responsible for them. Although the child may be naughty and disobedient, you must pay attention to the method. After punishing the child, you can also hug the child and tell the child that mom and dad love him.