How to change your personality

Different people have different personalities, and everyone's personality is changeable, but I believe many people know that everyone's personality has good and bad characteristics. Good personalities are naturally popular with people. So for some bad personalities, how should we change them? The following methods may help you make certain changes to your personality.

Method 1 of 5:

Basic work

Write down your plan. It’s a two-pronged action: what kind of change you want and who you want to become. Both are indispensable. This is a difficult task, and you should know what you are facing before you start the battle.

How can you predict what effect a new personality will have on your overall growth as a person? At this stage, many people will conclude that a personality change is not necessary, and what is necessary is to change a small habit that has a negative impact on your interactions with others. Will just a little tweak help?

If you want to be more like someone, first figure out what it is that you want to emulate. Don’t just look at someone and say, “Yeah, that’s who I want to be.” Find out what you truly admire about them — the way they handle things? The way they talk? The way they walk or act? More importantly, does it relate to their happiness?

Tell others. Part of the reason Alcoholics Anonymous is so successful is that it gets you to talk about things you wouldn't normally talk about. Having someone accountable to you can give you extrinsic motivation that you wouldn't get otherwise.

Tell a friend what you want to accomplish. If they are a trusted confidant, they will be able to nudge you in the right direction (either that you are being ridiculous or that you are on the right track). If you let it, the extra thoughts and second-hand perspective can help you see how you should act and what impression you make on others.

Reward system. This is absolutely useful. "absolute". This can be as small as moving a marble from one pocket to another, to as big as rewarding a vacation. Whatever it is, make your reward worthwhile.

When doing this, checkpoints can be set. If you walk up to a pretty girl and say something to her, that's great. This deserves attention. If you walk in on her next week and have some interesting conversation, great! Everything has a reward, and “everything” is a challenge.

Method 2 of 5:

Change your thinking patterns

Stop labeling yourself. When you think of yourself as shy and reserved, you use that thought as a fulcrum. Why don't you go to the party on Friday?...That's right. You have no reason at all. When you stop labeling yourself, the whole world opens up to you.

You are constantly changing. If you consider yourself a band geek, you may find that you possess this trait. But if you realize that you are always evolving and changing, it opens up opportunities that spark growth that you might otherwise miss because of your shyness.

Stop “fixing” ideas. Don't perpetuate the same labels and don't think the world is only black and white. Boys are not all scary, power is not evil, and textbooks have their uses. Once you realize that your “personal perspective” on things makes you who you are, you will see more possibilities and, therefore, have more choices in how you behave.

Some people believe that certain traits are "fixed," and this greatly influences how they behave. The opposite idea is the "maturity" mindset, which holds that character is malleable and can constantly change. This mentality develops in early childhood and can greatly influence a person's character. If you feel that things are “fixed” and you don’t believe you can change them, then how will you see the world? It can determine how you view yourself, your relationships, how you resolve conflict, and how quickly you bounce back from failure.

Drive away negative thoughts. Stop. The beautiful thing about your brain is that it is you, so you have control over it. If you find yourself thinking, “Oh my God, I can’t, I can’t, I can’t, I can’t, I can’t,” you probably really can’t. When this voice starts in your head, shut it up. This will do you no good at all.

Wrap a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you have a bad thought.

When this voice appears again, make it sound like Donald Duck. This makes it hard for you to take it seriously.

Method 3 of 5:

Change your feeling patterns

Fake it till you make it. There is a saying in Zen Buddhism that the way out lies through this door. If you want to become less shy, practice talking to people. If you admire people who read a lot, start reading. Be brave and step out. People develop bad habits, but there are ways to overcome them.

No one needs to know that deep down you feel your own death is imminent. Do you know why? Because soon this feeling will disappear. The human mind has a wonderful ability to adapt. What once sent a chill down your spine will become a thing of the past after a while.

Act as another identity. Yes, experiential acting gets a bad rap, but if Dustin Hoffman can do it, you might as well give it a try. In this way, you can completely immerse yourself in the role of someone else. This is not you, but a new creature you are trying to be.

This is an all-day practice. In each case, you must adopt the habits of the new character. How do they sit? What's their expression when they take a break? What are their concerns? How do they spend their time? Who do they keep in touch with?

Reserve a specific time for the crash. Well, it would be ridiculous to tell you to completely abandon your old self and simply adopt the thoughts and habits of a new persona. You can't do it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So give yourself a scheduled time to feel your own thoughts.

If there's a party on Friday that you absolutely dread, tell yourself you can release your fear for 20 minutes on Friday night or Saturday morning. 20 minutes is totally illogical and inefficient. But other than that, there is nothing. Keep going. You know what’s going to happen? You’re going to find out that you don’t need to waste this time.

Method 4 of 5:

Change your behavior patterns

Throw yourself into new situations. It is true that you can only see changes in yourself through changes in your life. To do this, you need new mannerisms, new people, and new activities. You can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect different results.

Start with small things. Join a club. Get a job outside of your skill set. Start reading books on the subject. More importantly, stay away from your old environment. You don't want to be around people who are trying to achieve the opposite of what you want to achieve.

Set conditions. If you are afraid of spiders, put yourself in the same room with a spider. Day by day, inch by inch. Eventually, you'll be sitting next to it. Even later on, you'll be holding it. Keep moving forward and erase the fear from your brain. Now, replace "spider" with whatever you want to achieve.

Keep a diary. You need some pretty strong self-awareness to keep you on track. Journaling will help you sort out your thoughts and analyze how you are handling this change. Write down what you have done and what you have not done yet.

Say "yes". If it's hard to throw yourself into a new situation, think of it this way: don't miss any more opportunities. If you know your old self will find it boring, take another look at it. If a friend asks you to do something you absolutely don't understand, agree with him. You will do better.

That being said, it's still better to make safe decisions. If someone tells you to jump off a cliff, don't do it. Use your brain first.

Method 5 of 5:

Final touches

Put on new clothes. Okay, clothes aren’t everything about a person, but they can help you get into the right mindset. While this will definitely not change your character, it can remind you who you are trying to be.

This can be as simple as just wearing a hat. If anything, this is a new you for you, and it's got your radar picking up on that. You’ll find it easier to stay in tune with yourself and reduce the gap in perception.

Develop a habit. Clothes and mindset may not be enough. Think about what this different person would do, and do it. They will seek out socializing, whatever it may be.

It doesn’t have to be in the big things – the little things work, too. Will she carry a pink purse? Will he listen to a certain band? Try to get into character as much as possible.

Settle down. Now that you’ve developed these new habits, and maybe made new friends and have a new routine, you might be feeling a little stifled. What’s important now is to embrace yourself no matter who or where you are. Dig your nails into your mouth and decide if you want to continue like this.

There are risks in completely changing yourself psychologically. If you succeed, it may take you a while to feel like your true "self". Relax. This feeling will come as long as you continue to keep this desire close to your happiness.

Reflect on your new personality. Have you actually achieved what you wanted to achieve? Do others see you as more positive now? Do you act and dress differently? Are you willing to sacrifice yourself to emulate your ideal other?

At this stage many people will realise that what they need is not a change in personality but rather acceptance of themselves and a willingness to try to improve themselves rather than presenting the fake image they model in public.