What is the psychology behind self-harm after quarreling

There will always be some conflicts and frictions in the interactions between people in life, whether it is between parents and children, lovers or friends, there will always be some frictions that lead to quarrels. Some people have more extreme ideas and engage in self-harm after an argument. This approach is highly undesirable because it causes great harm to one's body. So what causes self-harm after an argument?

1. The reasons why people commit self-harm after an argument.

1. There are psychological problems.

Everyone takes good care of their body. Unless there are some special circumstances, no one would be so desperate as to hurt themselves. If you find that after a quarrel, the other party often hurts himself or herself, or has a tendency to do so. Well, this is most likely because you are under too much pressure in your daily life and you are unable to adjust yourself, which causes an outburst during an argument. Self-harm behavior indicates that there are certain psychological problems, which is why people use this kind of behavior to vent their inner pain.

2. Hope to attract the other party's attention.

Self-harm is not always caused by psychological problems; it may also be a way to attract attention. Because after a quarrel, both parties usually enter a cold war period, that is, no one wants to pay attention to each other. However, if the other party cannot stand this kind of atmosphere, it is easy for them to think of attracting attention through self-harm, and then the two will communicate again and reconcile. This is a method that many people will adopt after a quarrel, such as deliberately making themselves sick, wanting the other party to care about them.

2. How to deal with self-harm when having an argument.

1. Consult professionals.

There are many reasons for self-harm behavior, but after an argument, you often find that your partner engages in self-harm behavior, and it becomes more and more serious. So, this needs to be taken seriously and we need to consider whether it is caused by mental illness. It is recommended to go to the hospital's psychology department for examination and treatment in time.

Never think that having mental problems is a mental illness, feel ashamed, and then ignore it. In fact, everyone will get sick, which can be divided into physical illness and psychological illness. This requires you to face your own disease bravely and work hard to fight it.

2. Spend more time with each other.

I remember a line from a song: "Companionship is the most lasting confession of love." It shows how important companionship is to your significant other. When you find that the other person is engaging in self-harming behavior, you need to pay more attention to him/her. After an argument, do not let the other person be in a painful or very sad situation. This will help reduce the other person's self-harm behavior and help him correct this bad habit.

3. Understand and sympathize with each other.

People who self-harm when they have an argument are usually those who lack a sense of security and are anxious about gains and losses. So, after a quarrel, when they don’t know how to express their thoughts, they want to attract the other person’s attention and get them to care about them in a simple and rough way. So, how do you deal with someone who likes to self-harm?

This requires more communication with him, to understand his thoughts, and to sympathize with his actions. Once the other person no longer has the tendency to self-harm, you can teach him to release pain in other non-harmful ways, such as eating, outdoor sports, listening to music, etc.