What should I do if my parents quarrel?

Conflicts are inevitable between couples. If small conflicts are not resolved properly, the two will have a big quarrel. Here I would like to remind all fathers that if there are young children at home, they must not quarrel in front of the children. This will cause great harm to the children’s young minds. In addition, many children do not know what to do when they find their parents quarreling, so here are some solutions.

What should I do if my parents quarrel?

1. If the parents are in a very emotional state, you can persuade the one who is in a more emotional state to say less and tell them to be more harmonious. At the same time, if you know which side is wrong, you can reason with him or her and then mediate between them and act as a lubricant. Never lose your temper, because after all, they are the younger generation. You can't help one party to speak harshly to the other party. It's best not to do that. In fact, it is normal for parents to quarrel sometimes. It happens in every family. Don't worry too much.

2. If they don’t do this often, it proves that there is no problem in their relationship. As for you, it is better to remain silent. After two days, everything will be fine.

3. However, if their cold war has not been resolved, then, as the emotional bond between the parents, you can play an important role at this time. You can find out the reasons for their quarrel from the side and then make some adjustments based on the actual situation.

4. When they quarrel, say loudly: Stop quarreling, it’s annoying if you keep quarreling like this! Have you ever thought about your feelings? Why can't you calmly say that what you want is a warm and harmonious family? Isn't it possible to meet such a request? Or just slam the door and leave, so that they will know that you don't like them quarreling and that you still exist. This is a very effective method, but it is not the best way.

5. In fact, silence is the most recommended method. Because no matter who you speak for, it will only add fuel to the fire, because they all think they are right. As soon as they speak, the two people who were originally evenly matched will inevitably tilt due to the intervention, and the other party will definitely feel more aggrieved, and it will be even more endless. So, just watch from the side, as long as the parents don't use violence, let them argue. When they get tired, that's fine.

6. You must understand that as a child, you must abide by the boundaries that children should follow. Parents’ quarrel is their own business, and the affairs of the previous generation should be resolved by themselves! Of course they feel bad when they quarrel, but there is no other way. Don't blame yourself for your parents' quarrel, as this will put you under pressure for the rest of your life. These things don't belong. Just tell them how they feel. That's it. If you quarrel again, you can walk away.

7. (Important point) When one parent talks to the other, the other parent should politely refuse to listen! Don't stand between the parents and be the judge in the war between the parents. This will be counterproductive.