What should we do if parents hit their children?

A long time ago, it was very common for parents to beat their children. Whenever the children were disobedient, many parents would beat them to educate them. But today everyone knows that this practice is very wrong. If children are often educated in this way, they will be prone to mental defects when they grow up, which will seriously affect their physical and mental health. Therefore, parents must avoid beating their children.

What should we do if parents hit their children?

Studies have shown that if children are frequently beaten or scolded, the stress hormones in their brains will continue to rise, causing the brain's stress system to be in a permanently highly tense state.

This condition will not only increase the probability of suffering from diabetes, hypertension, and stroke in adulthood, but the abnormal stress mechanism will also enhance anxiety, fear, and depression. Such emotions will make people want to use alcohol and drugs to escape and vent.

This is also why children who are often abused as children are more likely to become addicted to drugs and alcohol as adults.

In addition, a professor at the University of Texas found that two years old is the age at which children are most likely to learn aggression, because children of this age do not know the possible consequences of their behavior and cannot control themselves well.

If his parents often use beating and scolding to discipline him at this time, he will think that the most effective way to solve the problem is to attack, and he will become more and more aggressive.

Therefore, children who are often subjected to corporal punishment since childhood are more likely to show aggression when they become adults, because they have observed since childhood that the way adults solve problems is violence.

So, what should parents who know beating children is wrong but just can’t control themselves do?

1. If a child makes a mistake, he or she can be punished.

There are many ways to punish, such as not allowing children to do what they like, making them sit or stand as punishment, etc.

During the specific operation, you must keep your emotions stable and carry out the entire process of punishment with a gentle but firm attitude.

And tell the child why he is being punished, the rules and time of the punishment.

2. Don’t blame yourself too much if you hit or scold your child once or twice

Long-term corporal punishment is defined here as at least once a month for more than three years, and the corporal punishment tools include belts, boards, etc. If you hit or scold a child only in a fit of anger, don't blame yourself too much when you see the child crying heartbreakingly, thus doubly compensating the child in disguise.

3. Apologize to your child promptly

After beating or scolding a child, no matter what the reason, you should apologize to the child sincerely and promptly to obtain the child's forgiveness.

4. Build a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere

A harmonious and stable relationship between husband and wife is not only conducive to unifying educational concepts and standards for disciplining children, but also allows both parents to have the same ideas and avoid disputes when encountering problems.

Children in this situation will also understand better what they should and should not do, and the family atmosphere will be completely different.