How to overcome fear

Courage is a human psychological condition. The degree of courage varies from person to person depending on each person's life experience or some other reasons. Some people are particularly courageous, while others are particularly timid. In fact, timid people cause a lot of inconveniences in their lives. Such people generally dare not do this or that and are timid. So how should we overcome timidity?

This is a kind of lack of self-confidence and also a sign of poor psychological quality. Only when you are confident will you not be timid. This requires you to improve your psychological quality in order to effectively overcome your timidity. The main way to improve self-confidence is to learn more knowledge, interact more with people, improve your abilities, start with small things, and increase your confidence with every success. Ways to improve your psychological quality:

1. Life is full of setbacks. We must train and grow through setbacks, and grow through storms and waves.

2. Don’t think in absolutes. We should think about problems through multiple channels and not be swayed by absolute beliefs such as "must" and "definitely". Zhuangzi said: "Misfortune lies within the shadow of blessing, and blessing lies within the shadow of misfortune." We should look at problems from two perspectives and make arguments from two points of view.

3. Always think of others when encountering problems. If you only think about your own interests, you will worry about gains and losses and lose your mental balance; if you think more about others, you will be selfless and broad-minded, and you will be happy forever.

4. Make friends as much as possible. How can you survive without friends, feeling depressed and deep in thought, without communication and without a place to vent? People with cheerful personalities can communicate through multiple channels and improve their psychological endurance. Seeing yourself through others and understanding their greater misfortunes is the best way to cure your own misfortunes.

1. Positive self-suggestion: Say to yourself 20 times every night before going to bed and every morning after getting up, "I accept myself, I believe in myself!" Through this positive self-psychological suggestion, we can gradually change the negative ideas we had about ourselves, learn to accept ourselves, and cultivate our confidence.

2. Relaxation and meditation training: Find a quiet place where no one will disturb you, sit down comfortably, close your eyes, imagine yourself in a quiet place surrounded by green mountains and shady trees, and your mood will become peaceful. Now start to relax, imagine yourself becoming loose and soft from head to toe... Do this at least once a day. Regular practice will help us control our bodies and overcome nervous reactions.

3. Don’t pay too much attention to your own reactions: Tension is always accompanied by a series of physical discomforts. According to reinforcement theory, if we pay too much attention to the nervous reactions of certain parts of our body when we are nervous, it is equivalent to reinforcing our nervous behavior. Make it heavier step by step. When we ignore our nervous reaction, it will gradually subside over time because the nervousness is not getting attention or reinforcement.

4. Systematic desensitization can be used to eliminate fear. It is through repeated exposure to fearful stimuli and contact with the feared target that one gradually adapts to the stimulus and gradually eliminates the fear. The intensity of the stimulus can be presented from weak to strong, step by step. Otherwise, the fear will be aggravated.

5. You can use aversion therapy: The simplest method is to put a rubber band around your wrist, and when you feel fear or have any thoughts, snap it hard until you feel pain. This is also a kind of reinforcement, and the symptoms will be relieved after a while.