What to do if you have a bad temper

People have good tempers and bad tempers, and the same is true for children. In life, we often see such a phenomenon: some children cry loudly, or even roll on the ground, or hold their parents' legs and refuse to let go when their parents do not meet their demands. These behaviors are signs of children's bad temper. What should we do if children have a bad temper? Here are some tips for parents who want to deal with children who have bad tempers.

Why is my one and a half year old baby so irritable?

A bad temper is a normal emotional response

From a psychological point of view, children's temper tantrums are a manifestation of psychological needs. As infants and young children develop physically and mentally, they begin to gradually come into contact with more things. Their understanding of whether these things are right or wrong is not possible, unlike adults, where they can make rational analysis and then make decisions on actions. Instead, they participate based on their emotions and interests, even though these things are often inappropriate, unfavorable, or harmful to them. Therefore, when babies encounter frustration or discomfort, it is natural for them to express it through temper tantrums, such as throwing things or pulling their mother's hair. However, such behavior can only occur occasionally and cannot become a habit for the baby.

Children aged 2, 7 and pre-adolescents have bad tempers

As the baby grows, the number of frustrations increases, and when the baby is about five or six years old, the phenomenon of temper tantrums will gradually improve. As the saying goes, a child of seven or eight years old is annoying. When the baby reaches seven or eight years old, parents will find that this bad temper has resurfaced. In fact, when children are seven or eight years old, they are the most curious. They like to take apart the alarm clock and get to the bottom of things almost obsessively, which is just due to their strong desire for knowledge. Children before puberty, girls around 10 to 12 years old and boys around 14 to 15 years old, also have great mood swings and often show irritability, depression, and anxiety.

Children who lack love also have bad tempers.

The environment in which your baby grows up is also an important factor. Parents are the baby's first teachers. If mom and dad have a bad temper and are easily angered, and often have family wars, it will hurt the baby's heart and make the baby feel distressed because there is no role model. The baby will gradually adopt simple and violent methods like mom and dad when encountering difficulties and dealing with problems.

After knowing why a one and a half year old baby has a bad temper, if parents want to solve this problem, they must first pay attention to adopting appropriate educational methods. They should pay attention to helping the baby divert their attention when they are angry, so that they can better accept other happy things. This is a good way to solve the baby's temper.

How to calm your child's temper

Don't be threatened by your child's temper

Children often use temper tantrums to threaten their parents in order to achieve their goals. If parents give in and satisfy their children unconditionally, they are actually condoning their children's bad behavior of losing temper. If things go on like this, the child's temper may get worse and worse, and he will become more and more willful. Therefore, parents must not be threatened by their children's temper, but should take other ways to resolve their children's temper.

Distract your child

When parents see that their child is about to lose his temper, they can quickly divert his attention elsewhere. But such efforts by parents must be made early to be effective. Ask your child to admit his mistake. After your child loses his temper, insist on asking him to admit his mistake. It doesn’t matter whether the child’s attitude is sincere or the tone of voice is correct when admitting his or her mistakes, because asking the child to admit his or her mistakes will help the child restore the situation to normal after he or she gets angry.

Ignore for now

It is difficult for children to lose their temper when they are alone because they always have to have an object to target. If you let your child cry and stamp his feet without paying any attention to him, his temper will not last long. After doing this a few times, the child will naturally realize that unreasonable wishes cannot be achieved by being willful or losing temper.

Parents should agree

If parents do not agree on how to deal with their children's temper tantrums, then there is no point in taking any action. Inconsistency in the approach of both parents can fundamentally affect the child and can easily lead the child to disrespect one parent.

Eliminate the causes of your child's temper tantrums

There are many reasons why children lose their temper, but no matter what the reason is, parents should take it seriously and adopt appropriate methods to help children free themselves from these factors. Parents should first reflect on their own educational attitudes and methods to see if there are any inappropriate aspects. At the same time, parents should respect their children's feelings more.