How to change your quick temper

In our daily life, we often encounter such things. Some people often get angry because of some small things. Some people know how to control their emotions in life, and some people do not know how to restrain themselves. Sometimes a quick temper is a good thing, and sometimes a quick temper will only make people annoying. In fact, a quick temper can be changed slowly. So how to change a quick temper? Here are some ways to change your quick temper.

How to change your bad temper

(1) Enhance your sense of rationality. This can make us think more about things, think more about others, think more about the consequences of things, take them seriously, and handle them carefully. Once you notice signs of impulsiveness, restrain yourself in time and strengthen your self-control. Post warning signs such as "calm down" or "control your anger" at home or on your desk to remind yourself to stay calm at all times.

(2) Divert attention. When you find yourself getting emotionally agitated, in order to avoid an immediate outburst, you can consciously change the subject or do something else to distract yourself, shift your thoughts and feelings to other activities, and relax the tense emotions. For example, quickly leave the scene, do other things, talk to someone, take a walk, or simply run a few laps on the playground. This will release the energy caused by anger and your mood will calm down.

(3) Respond flexibly. There are multiple ways to deal with many things. You should act flexibly and not be so rigid. Sometimes you can give in and give the other person a chance to change their mind and attitude. When choosing a method, you should consider the effect of the matter. You can also use a small notebook to record the reasons and processes of each temper tantrum. By recording and recalling, analyzing and sorting out your thoughts, you will find that many of your temper tantrums are meaningless and you will feel ashamed. In the future, the number of angry attacks will be reduced a lot.

(4) Consider issues from a different perspective and be considerate of others’ feelings. As a person, you should have a little "magnanimity", that is, be tolerant of others, be "lenient to others and strict with yourself", and don't blame others for every little thing. It is extremely impolite to lose your temper with others over trivial matters. You get angry, frustrated, and feel happy, but this happiness is built on the pain of others. If you were in someone else's position and someone lost their temper with you, what would you think? Therefore, a person who always thinks about others and is considerate of others will not vent his anger on others even if he is unhappy, nor will he impose his unhappiness on others.

(5) Listening to music can regulate your emotions. When you have time, listen to more music with slow tempo, soft melody, elegant tone, beautiful and relaxing music, which can also help calm your emotions and change your bad temper.

Medical research shows that emotions and immune function are a pair of "twin brothers". People who are often worried and excited are prone to a decline in immune function, and the body's killing power and ability to phagocytize pathogenic microorganisms and inflammatory cells will also be relatively weakened, giving diseases an opportunity to take advantage.

To change your impatience, in addition to recognizing its harm and making up your mind, you also need to find out the reasons for your impatience. People with impatient tempers do not understand that the development of things has its objective laws, and that achieving goals requires a process. They think that they will succeed if they rely solely on subjective desires to achieve success. This is an important reason for impatience. Another important reason is that people require other people's thoughts, emotions and behaviors to completely conform to their own wishes. Once they find that what others say or do is not in line with their wishes, they become furious. Obviously, this kind of thinking is irrational and very unfair. Just as you don't like being dominated by others, others also like to do things according to their own wishes. If we acknowledge from the bottom of our hearts that others are different from us and have the right to act the way they like, we will learn an attitude of tolerance.

Therefore, those who are ready to change their impatient temper should often instill in themselves the beliefs of "be prepared for any eventuality", "think twice before acting", and "don't impose on others", adhere to the spirit of tolerance and forbearance, interact with others with an attitude of understanding, sympathy, and cherishing friendship, and repeatedly train, observe themselves, and summarize their fate. Keep going. There will inevitably be some talks.