What to do if your husband and wife always quarrel

The relationship between husband and wife has a great impact on whether family life is harmonious and happy. If the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, then family life will naturally be very happy. However, if the couple always quarrels, then it will not only affect the mental state and normal life of both husband and wife, but if there are children in the family, it will even have an extremely adverse effect on the children's growth. So, what should we do if couples always quarrel?

1. Learn to think from others’ perspective:

Husbands and wives should learn to think from each other's perspective. No one can impose their own will on the other and make the other speak and act according to their own ideas. If the other speaks and acts differently from what they want, they will be dissatisfied and start to complain. If the other party is also a strong person, or has endured such torture for a long time, then a quarrel is imminent. To resolve and calm a quarrel, both parties must know how to respect each other, think from each other's perspective, and consider whether what they say or do makes the other person uncomfortable. If they always think about the other person instead of themselves, quarrels will not occur.

2. Learn to be grateful and help each other:

Although two people have become husband and wife and have a responsibility and obligation to take care of each other, they must be grateful in their hearts and show it in their actions when they live their lives together. Don't think that the other person's hard work is what they deserve, and that they should do nothing and not give, and enjoy this effort and care with peace of mind. This is especially true for willful little women, who always feel that their husbands should work hard to support the family, otherwise what is the point of marrying a man? If one party gives and the other does not, and they don't know how to be grateful, the one who gives will naturally feel that they are not cared for, and after being suppressed and depressed for a long time, they will explode, and quarrels are inevitable. Only mutual help and joint efforts can make the family harmonious.

3. Learn to reflect and review:

There is no couple who doesn't quarrel. Small quarrels can bring peace of mind, but if you keep quarreling, there will be problems in your relationship. In such a situation, both of you must calm down, reflect on your words and deeds, and examine your own shortcomings. If you have done something wrong, you should bravely admit it to the other party instead of holding on to the other party's words and not letting go of the other party's mistakes. All you see are the bad points of the other party and you can't see your own mistakes. The quarrel will continue. If you don't want to quarrel, make yourself improve, learn to control your bad emotions, don't let bad emotions control yourself, and think more about the other party's strengths.

4. Learn to be humble and tolerant:

Frequent quarrels between husband and wife indicate that both of them are relatively strong-willed and do not know how to be humble and tolerant of each other. They always want the other party to understand them, tolerate them, make concessions, tolerate and change. They even want to use quarrels and cold wars to make the other party submit to them. As a result, wrong methods cause the quarrels to escalate, which chills each other's hearts and hurts the feelings of both parties. If you don't want to quarrel and want to solve the problem, both parties need to understand that no one is perfect and everyone has shortcomings. What is needed is mutual tolerance. With humility and tolerance, people will have a broad mind and stop caring about things, and naturally there will be no quarrels.

5. Learn to appreciate praise:

When two people become husband and wife, they feel familiar and understand each other. Gradually, they no longer appreciate and praise each other. Some of them become picky and dissatisfied, always feeling that the other person is not as good as before. In such an overly familiar psychological state, quarrels occur. In fact, what you need to know is that people have not changed, but their own mentality and understanding have changed. If you want to avoid quarrels, after marriage, both parties should still look at the other half with appreciation, encourage him (her) more, praise him (her). He will always be the most beautiful in your heart. Will there still be quarrels?

6. Learn to change and adapt:

More reasons for quarrels between couples are because they are thinking about how to change the other person, to make the other person into what they want. However, a person has his or her own growing environment, life experience, personality, temper, eating habits, hobbies, etc. It is not easy to change a person's personality, temper, and way of doing things in life. When the other party cannot change, the other party begins to complain. In fact, you should know that you are wrong. Never think about changing the other person. He is who he is, unique. What you need to change is yourself. If both of you learn to change yourself and adapt to each other's habits and behaviors, there will be no more quarrels.

7. Learn to improve your self-cultivation:

If a couple quarrels frequently, it means that both of them are impatient, have bad tempers, cannot control their emotions, and are easily excited. When such two people get together, there will naturally be constant fighting. Both of them are aware of their tempers. If they want to avoid quarrels, they should read more books about controlling emotions. They can also grow flowers and plants, cultivate themselves, improve their self-cultivation, and control their impulses. When their self-cultivation improves, their mentality becomes calm, they will have fewer desires and will not quarrel.