What are the causes of dependent personality

Dependent personality actually develops in the early stages of human development, especially in early childhood, when children are always under the protection of their parents. Excessive dependence and excessive pampering by parents will lead to dependent personality in children as they grow up.

1. Reasons

The dependent personality originates early in human development. Children cannot survive without their parents in their early years. In the children's impression, parents who protect them, raise them, and meet all their needs are omnipotent. They must rely on them and are always afraid of losing this guardian angel. At this time, if parents are overly indulgent and encourage their children to rely on them, and do not allow their children the opportunity to grow up and become independent, over time, their children will gradually develop a dependence on their parents or authority, and will still not be able to be independent even after they become adults. They lack self-confidence and always rely on others to make decisions. They are unable to take the responsibility of choosing and adopting various tasks and jobs throughout their lives, thus forming a dependent personality.

2. Methods

The first step is to eliminate negative childhood impressions. Dependent people lack self-confidence and have very low self-awareness, which is related to the traces of inferiority left in their hearts by bad education in childhood. You can recall the negative words your parents, elders, and friends said to you in your childhood, such as: "You are so stupid, you can't do anything.", "Look how clumsy you are, let me help you.", etc. Sort out these words carefully, and then reconstruct them one by one, and tell these words to your friends and relatives, and ask them not to use these words to blame you when you try to do something, but to encourage and help you enthusiastically.

The second step is to rebuild your courage . You can choose to do something slightly adventurous and do one of them every week, for example: taking a short trip to a nearby scenic spot alone; participating in a recreational activity alone; or setting aside one "independence day" a week, and on this day, no matter what, you will never rely on others. By doing these things, you can increase your courage and change your weakness of relying on others for everything.