The secret to long-lasting love: these three habits must be learned

It is said that love has a shelf life. After the shelf life, it is like expired food and is difficult to eat. Whether men or women, they will try every means to prolong the shelf life of love, making the feelings between the two strong but not greasy and most delicious. Want to turn your relationship into a classic dessert that you never get tired of? These three habits will help you achieve your wish.

Just like Stefanie Sun sang in the song, love is the impulse of still wanting to love you after a quarrel. Love without quarrels and friction is not true love. However, too much quarreling and friction will quickly cool the relationship between the two. How can we adapt to each other and at the same time not wear out our relationship? This is really a difficult mystery to solve.

After the running-in period, will everything go smoothly? NO. After entering the stable period, both parties have become familiar with each other, and seeing each other and touching each other is like the left hand touching the right hand. Even when going to bed, I can predict the other person's actions and feelings in the next second. Is this feeling good for each other? Perhaps this is why the seven-year itch comes about. Because we are too familiar and too accustomed, the temperature of feelings is like warm water, without any waves or passion. The wonderful world outside is always stirring a restless heart. Maybe at some point, you will be attracted by a figure passing by the window and can't help but run out.

Let each other's feelings be strong but not greasy

Theosophy says that every person created by God has both a male and a female soul. It explains that the division of humanity into two sexes was a punishment for wandering the earth without God. So we are always searching for our destined soul mate. The search is so difficult because only after all karmic debts have been paid off can the two halves of a person be reunited and reach the end.

Both statements show that whether in the past or in the present, we all deeply desire that there is someone in the world who was born because of us.

We spend our entire lives searching for our other half, and most of our lives expecting someone who will understand us from birth. However, according to a recent social psychology survey in the United States, people who think they are perfectly matched soul mates usually have worse relationships with their partners than those who think they are constantly growing and solving problems together.

The myth of soul mates can easily make people more dissatisfied and disappointed with love. Most long-lasting and beautiful relationships must be built through the growth of two people together. So perhaps, what we should do is not to look for or expect the so-called soul mate to appear, but to cherish the ones around us.

Mr.Right Now, let Mr. Right Now become someone who is willing to make progress together and walk hand in hand for a lifetime.

Through interacting with our significant other, we feel each other and then see ourselves. Soul mates actually represent the "desired self" in our hearts, because we all want to be the best version of ourselves and pursue higher imaginations. So even though we can still look forward to soul mates in our hearts, we should not let such expectations distort the reason why two people fell in love in the first place, nor should we let imagination limit the free development of emotions.

Three ways to maintain your relationship

Some people say that the shelf life of love is only 18 to 30 months. From knowing each other to falling in love, after the passionate period of love, we are faced with the period of adjustment with constant quarrels. In the end, we will break up or stay together more steadily. It all depends on our luck! Some people say that love is only beautiful when we are in love, but it is precisely because of the joys and sorrows that it is called love! Just like the writer of gender

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As the saying goes: "True love will have quarrels, fights and cold wars." After the freshness period, the following three methods will teach you how to have a strong but not greasy way! Let you have some tears in love, but still be able to hold that hand firmly and go on!

Make yourself more tempting than dessert

Women all love chocolate, especially the kind that can be savored slowly, which warms the heart. In winter, I like a cup of warm hot chocolate the most. If you can add hazelnuts, it is a perfect match. With Wansui chocolate hazelnut drink, you can feel the taste changes on the tip of your tongue. Every sip stimulates the taste buds, and the temperature is just right to moisten your throat. With the multi-layered taste and chewing, it brings surprises. Let love be like rich but not greasy hot chocolate! And you are the delicious hazelnut that makes him can't stop eating one bite after another.

After a long time together, you advance from lovers to family. You start not to care about your messy hair when you wake up in the morning, or you can wear loose clothes and walk to the alley to eat at a snack stand. It is great to be able to show your most relaxed self in front of the one you love, but it is also a double-edged sword, because the radiant and beautiful you seems to slowly disappear!

Dear, while you relax, you must also keep yourself able to attract him at any time, a look, a gesture, or a surprise dinner date. Every surprise will make him fall in love with you more.

Short separation makes the heart grow fonder

After being together for too long, life gradually becomes so tight that there is no room to breathe. Sometimes, you will start to miss the time when you were single, and miss the days when you couldn't see each other every day. At this time, appropriate time-sharing can actually warm up your love. Plan a small trip for yourself! Give yourself a little break in this relationship. You will find that you may feel free and relaxed in the first two days, but starting from the third day, you will start to think of someone, wondering what he is doing now? And wondering if he is thinking of you.

When we are too close, we always lack tolerance and quarrel easily with each other, because you know that he will never leave you. When you are separated and have less time to talk, you will begin to cherish every word you say, you will value each other's sense of security, and the day you meet again, you will find that both of you have grown a little in this love.

Don't forget those little habits

Pick a day to get up early and make breakfast for him. Start by selecting the ingredients. Just like love, build the life you want step by step and make yourself an indispensable presence in his life blueprint. For women, a cup of hot chocolate during menstruation can make them feel the most caring. Every sip of the warm chocolate is particularly pleasant and can eliminate all the discomfort during menstruation. Leave a note for her before you leave home! Remind her of the dinner date and say some sweet words that you can't say to her face, so that she will be in a good mood when she wakes up.

What is important may not be the thoughtful little habits, but the sense of security that I have you in my heart. When you are there when I need you most, that is the sweetest moment in love.

The relationship between two people needs each other's careful care, so that the sapling of emotion can grow better and better. If you think more about each other and are more considerate, your relationship will naturally be sweeter.