How to guide introverted children

Different people have different growing environments and experiences, which also leads to differences in people's personalities. Some people are lively and extroverted, while others are sensitive and introverted. People who are too introverted not only face problems in interpersonal communication, but are also more likely to suffer from related mental illnesses. Therefore, it is very important for parents to understand how to guide introverted children to become cheerful.

Possible reasons for children's introverted personality

1. Family background and parenting style

Family background and upbringing style are often the main factors that lead to introverted personality. If the parents are more introverted, they firmly believe that if they want their children to be highly obedient, they must keep a certain distance from their children. They like children who are submissive, dependent and well-behaved. Parents will not encourage their children to make friends, and the children’s social circle is limited to their parents and family. Children who grow up in an environment lacking communication with others know very little about general social skills. Social interaction makes them feel uneasy and they try to avoid it.

2. Changes in the environment

Once the surrounding environment changes, children need to adjust themselves to adapt to the new environment. Extroverted children tend to adapt quickly to new environments and create comfort. Introverted children adapt to new environments more slowly, and they often show timidity, poor activity, etc. If the familiar environment around children suddenly changes, they are likely to become less talkative and show introverted characteristics.

3. Sensitive Self-Awareness

Because children are sensitive about their self-awareness, they may develop "tentativeness" and "phobia" towards people. For example, some parents require their children to behave generously, appropriately, and naturally politely when interacting with others. However, because the children are overly aware that the other party is a stranger, they feel nervous and timid, and exhibit avoidant and retreating behaviors. If a child's behavior is criticized by his parents, he will never dare to try to communicate with others again and will completely retreat into his own personal world.

4. Lack of confidence

Children who lack confidence often show poor activity, that is, behavioral and verbal withdrawal, which is manifested in not daring to interact with others, not daring to express their own opinions, strong herd mentality, etc. Due to lack of self-confidence, children tend to be introverted.

How to guide introverted children

1. Understand the pros and cons of introversion and extroversion

Extroverted and introverted children behave differently, and each has its own advantages and disadvantages: extroverted children are cheerful, not shy, and quick to react; but they often lack planning and persistence, and it is difficult for them to develop the habit of independent thinking. Introverted children are calm and good at thinking when faced with things, but they are prone to inferiority complex. Parents should fully recognize the strengths and weaknesses of their children, give full play to their strengths and overcome their shortcomings. A child’s introverted personality is not a complete weakness.

2. Enhance children's ability to adapt to the environment

The ability to adapt to the environment is so important to human development that it is sometimes even defined as the core of intelligence. For children, the ability to adapt to the environment is often closely related to their parents' parenting style. Excessive protection makes children less able to adapt to the environment. Therefore, parents should let their children interact with others, let them experience in different environments, and let them gain communication experience, which is very beneficial to their development.

3. Cultivate children's self-esteem and self-confidence

Cultivating children's self-esteem and self-confidence is the key to developing a healthy personality. People with self-esteem and confidence tend to be positive and optimistic, while those without self-esteem tend to be negative and pessimistic. Self-esteem and self-confidence can make children happy. When a child feels that he is capable of doing things well, has a sense of competence and is accepted by others, he will definitely be happy. This kind of happiness comes from within and from the heart.