How to educate a lazy child

Children’s education is one of the issues that parents are most concerned about. Adolescence is an important period of growth and development for children. Children’s three views will be developed and perfected during this period. Children are full of curiosity about the world and like to imitate others, so it is very easy for them to develop bad habits. When children face very satisfying problems, parents are often very anxious. So how should they educate lazy children?

Children who are too lazy are often the result of being spoiled by their parents. As the saying goes, "Mother is diligent, daughter is lazy" and "Children of poor families grow up early", there is some truth to both.

However, two new issues are more noteworthy now:

First, some parents are obviously spoiling their children, but they don’t realize it until the problem becomes serious, and then they blame the children;

Second, many parents only notice the laziness their children show in life, but fail to see the laziness in their thinking.

There are generally three situations in which parents spoil their children:

1. Lack of experience. Seeing that the children are still young, I don’t know which tasks should be left for the children to do by themselves. I am afraid of bothering the children, so I can’t help but do more than I should. As long as this type of parents strengthen their studies, they will soon be able to master scientific methods.

2. Blindly following your emotions, knowing that this will easily spoil your children, but you cannot control yourself. For example, some elders of the same generation would say to the child’s parents: Please allow me to spoil this child for a week! To this type of parents, we must seriously explain to them that this kind of love will harm children, and then give some typical examples, such as some death row prisoners who gradually turned to crime due to their parents' doting.

3. They believe that nowadays the competition in studies is fierce, and as long as children study their lessons well, that is better than anything else. All other things should be taken care of by the parents. If children are a little lazy in life, they will naturally correct themselves when they grow up and become sensible.

Such parents have at least two things they have not thought of:

1. We advocate that children should participate in self-service labor and housework from an early age, not just to let them learn some skills, but more importantly to let them treat others correctly from an early age. A person who grew up in an environment where "clothes come to hand, food comes to mouth" and has never experienced the hardship of labor will not know how to respect and love others. A person who has no other in his heart will not be able to have the collective and the motherland in his heart in the future. Such a person will inevitably be condemned frequently in our society, and his life will not be happy.

2. Parents do not realize that laziness in life and laziness in thinking are interrelated to a certain extent. If you push things away when you can, give in when you can, and rely on others everywhere in life, then in studying, you will definitely go around difficulties, avoid them when you can, and delay them when you can. Eventually, they will become mentally lazy, not fond of reading, not fond of thinking, and always looking for leisure and relaxation. They will most likely become a waste when they grow up.