The harm of premature love in junior high school

Puppy love refers to a state of love between people when they are not old enough to take on social responsibilities. In China, if middle school students fall in love, it is considered puppy love. Moreover, premature love is a very common phenomenon. Adolescent boys and girls will inevitably have some longing for love, so they will choose premature love. So what are the dangers of early love among junior high school students?

1. The ideology has not yet been finalized

1. Since middle school students have not yet formed their worldview, their views on the world, society, and life are still relatively naive and one-sided. Their thoughts and moral qualities will undergo great changes in their future life. Therefore, two people may agree today, but may disagree tomorrow, and may even go their separate ways a few years later. In real life, it is not difficult to find that the vast majority of people who fall in love in middle school fail, and only a few can become a couple later. It is extremely difficult for middle school students to have a successful early love relationship.

2. Not yet mature psychologically

The psychology of middle school students is still in the development stage. In terms of self-awareness, there is a "blind sense of maturity" and a tendency to be self-righteous; in terms of emotional development, there are large mood swings, impulsiveness, and easy transference; in terms of will development, self-control ability is poor.

3. It can easily cause psychological trauma to girls

When middle school students are in love, they are very likely to act on their emotions and do "deviant" things. Once they "deviate", the psychological trauma caused to female students is irreparable for life. Maybe they don't feel anything at the time, but the frustration and inferiority complex caused by the end of the road are indescribable and beyond their expectations.

4. Not financially independent yet

Some middle school students, unable to pay for the material needs during their relationship, take risks and go astray. There was a 15-year-old junior high school student in a middle school in Guangzhou. Because his family was poor, he had no money to buy a gift for his girlfriend's birthday, so he stole a bicycle, and then stole three more, with a total value of 900 yuan. From then on, he embarked on the road of crime.

2. How to get out of the whirlpool of premature love

1. First, jump out

Since premature love is not suitable for us middle school students, we must learn to use reason to overcome emotions, take the initiative to jump out of the whirlpool of love, establish lofty ideals and cultivate a strong sense of professionalism. We should always compare ourselves with the advanced ideas and lofty spiritual realm of heroes, models and advanced figures.

The second is to "freeze"

It requires both parties to discuss their attitudes rationally, cool down the emotions of premature love, and concentrate their energy on study. This is called "rapid freezing"; there is also "slow freezing", which is "freezing" by gradually cooling down. Freeze the relationship first and don’t develop it in middle school.

The third is to “separate”

Try to avoid contact between the two of you alone, interact more with other classmates, participate in more group activities and your favorite cultural, sports, and scientific activities, and use multi-level and multi-angle friendship among classmates to dilute this romantic relationship.