Specific manifestations of domestic cold violence

The harm of domestic cold violence is no less than that of ordinary violence. Many families are broken up because of the long-term existence of cold violence. Cold violence is extremely harmful. We need to know the specific manifestations of family cold violence and take timely measures to suppress it when we find signs of it, so as to avoid its long-term existence and major impacts. So, what are the specific manifestations of domestic cold violence? Let’s take a look below.

The first stage of cold violence: He suddenly became very busy

He is suddenly very busy when you are still immersed in the joy of being in love. Your reaction is: I should be better/or why is he so busy, so you restrain yourself and reduce the frequency of contact. And he will not ignore you completely, he will occasionally send you text messages and call you. Unfortunately, there are no onomatopeia anymore, for example, the original “I’m home!” becomes “I’m home.” In addition, you hug and kiss less.

The second stage of a cold and violent breakup: You start to question

When the first stage lasts for a while, you feel that you are not as passionate as before, and finally you start to question him, why is he like this lately? At this time, this kind of person will not tell you directly "I don't love you that much" or "I've fallen in love with someone else". They usually say: "No, I'm just tired lately" or "I'm under a lot of pressure" and then tell you "don't think too much". There will be a period of relaxation afterwards, and you will feel like he is touching your head to comfort you.

The third stage of cold violence: You don’t take the initiative to contact him, and he doesn’t contact you

While some signs of improvement appear in the second stage, the coldness between you may not exceed that of the first stage. But it is absolutely impossible to return to the state before the cold violence, where he suddenly stops contacting you. This is the so-called third stage. At this time, he will reply to your text messages and answer your calls, but he will not contact you unless it is necessary. Your madness begins to endlessly increase: What is he thinking? Does he not love me anymore? How could we be like this? A series of question marks make you gradually lose yourself. You will ask your friends around you for advice, ask yourself, your emotions fluctuate greatly, and your focus will shift entirely to this relationship. But when he doesn't say anything, you are reluctant to break up.

The fourth stage of cold violence: When you start saying let’s break up

At this time, women usually say, I can’t stand it anymore, let’s break up. In fact, the mentality at this time is to save the relationship, not to really break up. Usually, at this time, the person who uses cold violence will say with hesitation: No; or give me another chance. In short, I want to keep you and not let you leave. At this time, you feel a little better and feel that the other person still cares about you. However, this good mood is mixed with a lot of anxiety. People who use cold violence just keep you in suspense.

The fifth stage of cold violence: de-escalation

At this stage, because of the previous fourth stage, they will be a little nicer to you. You will feel that the other person has returned, and this is an emotion that carries too much apology. It won't last long, very short.

The sixth stage of cold violence: When you begin to believe that love can be recovered

When you begin to believe that lost love has been recovered, they begin to return to the third stage, not contacting you, and even getting worse. For example, the text message you sent may fall on deaf ears, and the phone you called may be turned off.

The seventh stage of cold violence: You have gone crazy and completely lost yourself

After going through the first six stages, your mentality is basically very bad. Your emotions fluctuate so strongly that you cry at the slightest provocation. You cry when you wait for his message but can't get it, and you shed tears when you walk past the place where you once had beautiful memories. You are wavering between breaking up and not breaking up, unable to sleep or eat, but unfortunately he doesn't know any of this.

The eighth stage of cold violence: You propose to break up, and he remains silent

You have to go through the seventh stage for a very long time, with back and forth pain, and friends persuading and scolding you, before you enter the eighth stage of sorrow that is greater than a dead heart. You sent a text message saying you wanted to break up, and the other party responded with silence.