What to do if high school students hate studying

When children reach the second year of high school, they are already in the late stage of adolescence. However, many children at this time will be very rebellious. They don't want to study, especially don't want to study under the supervision of teachers and parents. They always want to go against the opinions of teachers and parents. This will cause teachers and parents to strictly supervise the children, and will also cause children to dislike studying. So what should we do if high school students dislike studying?

For children who hate studying, Mr. Ruan from the Kangfit Youth Growth Center recommends that you take the following approaches:

1. Help children find motivation for learning and let them feel loved, cared for and needed during learning.

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, in addition to survival and security, people also have needs for love and belonging, self-esteem and self-actualization. As students, they spend most of their time studying. If they can meet these needs in their studies, they will naturally not develop an aversion to learning.

From the perspective of behaviorism, if a child can constantly receive encouragement or other forms of positive reinforcement during learning, he will think that learning is a very good thing, and there will be no question of aversion to learning.

2. Family education is vital for children. Children’s problems largely come from their parents. While children are adjusting, parents should actively cooperate, find their own problems, and grow with their children.

Looking at all aspects of current education issues, the real root lies precisely in the family education link. People spend the longest time living in their families in their lives, and many interpersonal rules, life and study habits that affect our growth begin to form during the family education stage. Good family education and habit formation are crucial to children's future development. Every child is a blank slate when he is born, and the problems he encounters during his growth are often a reflection of his parents' problems. Parents’ preaching, endless emphasis on grades, distortion of learning motivation, etc. can easily cause children to dislike learning. Therefore, while changing their children, parents should also recognize their own problems and actively adjust them.

3. Guide children on learning methods, let them understand the essence of learning, focus on the learning process itself, rather than being burdened by grades.

Many times, children do not know what they should learn or what the meaning of learning is. The current education system’s emphasis on grades is almost their only impression of learning. In this way, it is natural for children with poor academic performance to dislike learning. In addition, many children are eager to learn well, but lack the correct methods. Over time, their sense of self-efficacy will drop significantly, and they will develop problems such as learned helplessness in learning, so they begin to avoid learning.

In response, we should explore the nature of learning with our children, reduce their focus on grades, re-recognize the importance of the learning process, and strengthen their interest in the learning process. Guidance on learning methods can make learning easier for them and make them enjoy learning more.