What to do if your adolescent child hates studying

Adolescence is a very important period when children begin to undergo major changes both physically and mentally, and they become more rebellious. Adolescence is a critical stage in schooling, whether it is junior high school or high school. For ordinary families, it is of great significance. Think about the future college, if the child does not have good grades, parents will feel a lot of pressure. So, what should we do if adolescent children become tired of studying? Let’s take a look below.

1. Cultivate children's passion for learning

In terms of study, some children have average grades, neither good nor bad. However, teachers and parents believe that judging from the abilities of these children, they can achieve better results, and their mediocre grades are because the children have not worked hard enough. Why does this happen? Luo Tiesheng, an expert in special education at Changsha Ruizhi Education School for Rebellious Children, analyzed and pointed out that the potential of these children has not been fully developed. The reason is that they lack passion. He suggested that if parents find that their children have no interest in learning and are in low spirits, they should talk to their children about life, help them establish their ideals, and guide them to use their efforts to build a successful path to their ideals. At the same time, parents should also overcome their own negative emotions. When encountering problems in their children's education, they should not blame their children or complain about everything. They should set an example and influence their children with a positive family culture.

For those children with excellent academic performance, the closer the exam is, the higher their enthusiasm and efficiency in studying will be. However, other children are completely different. The closer they get to the exam, the more they lack confidence. They even become nervous and panic, feeling that they know nothing. For such children, helping them regain their confidence is the key to improving their grades. Luo Tiesheng, an expert in special education at Changsha Ruizhi Education School for Rebellious Children, pointed out that parents should discover more of their children's strengths and affirm them; on this basis, they should help their children find ways to allow them to experience the joy of progress and success, rather than using doubtful and warning language to undermine their children's confidence and enthusiasm. Help children build up self-confidence. Once they overcome their psychological fears, it will naturally not be difficult to improve their academic performance.

3. Protect children’s self-esteem

When chatting, several parents talked about their children, and they all said what they were excellent in and what they were very good at, as if all children had talents in all aspects and artistic gifts. In fact, this is not the case. For a small number of children, they do have talents in certain areas, and it would be a waste if they don't study or explore these talents. For most children, being forced by their parents to attend various special classes does not lead to their development but is simply a form of destruction.

4. Don’t hurt your child’s self-esteem

The reason all comes down to the vanity of parents. They are afraid that their children will not learn special skills and will be outdone by other children and have nothing to show off. But have parents who love their children ever thought that you have paid more than just money? At the same time, you are hurting a child and yourself. In fact, it is much more meaningful and positive to let your child learn only one skill he likes than to force him to learn a lot of skills he doesn't like. Letting children learn skills that they don’t actually like is simply asking for their death. Look carefully at the children who enter the skill training classes. Are their hearts really on the skills?