How can people with weak aura change

The so-called weak aura means that people feel they are not valued enough. There are many reasons why you cannot attract attention wherever you go. It is related to family education, your own education level, and of course, psychological quality, personality and many other aspects. If you want to change, you can do some exercises in your daily life. By training certain skills, you can change the characteristics of weak aura.

How can a person with a weak aura change?

1. Control your friendliness.

Have you ever experienced that when you talk to the same person with a blank expression, she will smile at you involuntarily? But when you smile, her smile disappears unknowingly? It seems that people are born to be mean. When others are too friendly, they can't help but look down on them. Sometimes it is purely subconscious, and we may not intend to be deliberately rude, but the expression on our face cannot be hidden.

You can practice in front of a mirror and create a smile that is polite but not overly enthusiastic. Look the other person in the eye and smile slightly when speaking. Your eyes should be firm and there should be no sign of fear.

Another small detail is the mouth. Try to make your lips look natural. Although slightly opening your mouth may look cute, it may also make people think you are ignorant. The act of opening your mouth and glaring with eyes wide open can be used to act like a spoiled child in front of your elders...

2. Reasoning skills and methods.

Some people are born with a bad tongue, are not good at arguing, and can't get to the point when they get into an argument. They are soft-hearted and cannot bear to really hurt others, so they are inevitably bullied and looked down upon again and again. I wonder if anyone has ever experienced this: when you are being bullied and you muster up the courage to protest, the other party responds with nonsense like "Please think about me and others", "What should I do if you do this"... and gradually you start to feel that you are being unreasonable?

Once you start to doubt whether you are right, take a deep breath, calm down, and think back to the reason for your anger. And believe that there is no need to sacrifice your legitimate rights and interests to facilitate another person. If you are willing, you are generous. If you are not willing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Also, you can raise specific questions (for example, someone said something unpleasant to you) and ask your friends around you to see how they respond. If some of them are eloquent, they will be very inspiring.

As an aside, I think I can improve my ability in this area on Tianya. I wonder if the OP has seen the post by White Colored Sister? She is a very sharp person and can get straight to the point when discussing something. I am not a person who is good at reasoning, but I have learned a lot from reading the white and colorful posts, and I feel that I have improved myself...

3. Use some psychological methods.

The simplest is self-hypnosis. I thought to myself that the wording could be a little more vicious. For example, if you are often bullied by someone, you can repeat to yourself on the bus before going to work: "Who does he think he is? I am not afraid of him." Repeat it for at least 5 minutes and it will be effective.

When the other person has shown impoliteness, you can also say to yourself: "He is so uneducated." Believe me, when you think this in your heart, your eyes will change. The other party can feel it.

Another method is text practice. Write down the conversations that made you angry, reflect on where you responded inappropriately, and then think about better ways to deal with them and write them down as well.