How to overcome jealousy, detailed explanation by psychologists

Jealousy is a common psychological attitude. If jealousy persists for a long time, it will make you very painful, and in serious cases it will distort your psychology. For this reason, people should communicate more with others and make themselves confident so that they can overcome it.

1. Don’t compare yourself with others, compare yourself with yourself.

This is easier said than done. Most of our habits of comparing ourselves to others are developed from childhood. When we were young, we often heard our parents mention "so-and-so next door". This "so-and-so next door" became the motivation to motivate us to move forward, but it also made us develop the habit of comparing ourselves with others.

In fact, the more correct way to motivate us to move forward is not to compare ourselves with others, but to compare ourselves with ourselves. If I am better today than I was yesterday, and tomorrow I will be better than today, we should feel happy because we are moving towards self-realization.

2. Give yourself the right amount of confidence

Self-confidence is a valuable quality and a manifestation of a sound and complete personality. In fact, there is no need to add the modifier "appropriate" to it. Confidence itself is a just right expression. If you feel too good about yourself, it is conceited; if you seriously lack confidence in yourself, it is inferiority. Only when we have appropriate self-confidence can we be neither arrogant nor self-deprecating, and treat others neither humble nor arrogant. If you are too conceited, you will love to show off and always be dissatisfied with others. If you have too low self-esteem, you will be cowardly and easily jealous. To eliminate jealousy, you must learn to be confident.

3. Learn to be grateful

People are just weird sometimes. When we are jealous, we do not seek happiness in what we have, but pain in what others have. Moreover, when the object of your jealousy is someone who likes to show off, the pain caused by your jealousy may be even more intense. So, why should we bother ourselves with trivial matters? Think about what we have. Of course, you don't have to look for what you have that he doesn't. Just focus on what you have and the elements that make you feel happy (I believe there must be some), and then sincerely appreciate and cherish what you have, you will feel very happy, and then laugh at yourself and think, "Why was I so stupid before?"