How long does it take to know each other before having sex without feeling embarrassed?

How long should couples talk about sex without feeling embarrassed? This question gives many couples a headache.

Zhang Fan from Jiangsu: I am 24 years old and have known my girlfriend for a year. We met through a blind date. We have grown up well and have also developed some intimate behaviors, such as holding hands and kissing. But from our contact, I feel that my girlfriend does not have enough knowledge about sex and has some misunderstandings. I really want to talk to her about this issue and help her look at it correctly. How should I start? How long does it take for a couple to talk about this private topic? How long does it take for a couple to have sex?

People cannot avoid the issue of sexual contact in love, but when to talk about this issue cannot be measured by time, but depends on the level of getting along between the two people.

In love, both parties will constantly come into contact with sexual issues, for example, holding hands and hugging at the beginning, then hugging, kissing and caressing, and finally developing into sexual life. However, every sexual behavior grows gradually with the growth of feelings. When a person finds that another person rejects his or her intimate behavior, he or she will be confused and suspect that the other person does not love him or her. At this time, a discussion on sexual topics can be started.

During the discussion, you should learn to respect, understand and accept the other person's feelings, and find out the other person's bottom line for intimacy, such as whether it is just hugging and kissing, or touching, and whether the other person is willing to accept premarital sex.

In short, before getting married, two people in love should be sexually willing and respect each other. When discussing this topic, you should proceed step by step. Don't be too anxious, but don't avoid it either.